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Dear Brother in islam.

Assalam o alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu

I am a mother of 4 kids, and our marriage has been 9 years old. We have come from different country. As i am indonesian, and he is pakistani. 2 1/2 years back, he was sent me and kids to pakistan,  that time he want to start his new business and ask me to stay far from him due to financial save. I go thru diffuicult time in 2 1/2 years, as it was different language, and new culture which i and my kids have to adjust with. I trust him . as we masya allah have 2 daughter, and 2sons.

Time has passed away, and with the grace of almigthy Allah, i was wellcomed with blessed and loved by my parents in law. As i also dedicated and recpect and love them more than my own parents.

the problem is come, when i came back to indonesia and found out that he was married to another woman and having 3 months baby. I was get shock and upset, as I was sacrifice our life, being far from him for his business, but he was cheating me. He do jinnah by stay together with her for months, and married her after. The business was go down and there is nothing left but loans. Many loans. Which is out of my mind. How he spent the money? I dont know, because in pakistan we are very save and control every expenses.

Now, my kids need education, we need house to stay, we need our life to be set up, but there is nothing left, not even running business. Now we stay together in one house with her new wife and our kids. But he was not fair treat us. And kids. Even he do aqiqah for his new son, but no one of my kids have done yet.

Please help me, by telling me is it what he did is legal in islam? and what he did correct according to islam ? as he many time say to me that i have to accept my destiny from Allah. My nasib, My mukhadar.... Allah make this for me ?

And he also do false report to legal law, that he was sigle to get nikah book. As in indonesia system to get second marriage have to get permission from first wife. it means he deny me as his wife, and he deny his 4 kids. in front of Allah.

Please let me and guidiance me.  with quran and hadist

may we all get justify in front of Allah.

Allah hafiz

Sister in islam

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Answer:

Man marries 2nd wife cheat

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: ….Please help me, by telling me is it what he did is legal in islam? and what he did correct according to islam ?

The lies that he told you, the relationship of ‘zina’ which he developed with the other woman, the sacrifices which he exhorted you and your children to make for his illegal and unlawful pleasure, etc…..are without an iota of a doubt, all in transgression of the Laws of Shariah and grave sins in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Your Question: …..as he many time say to me that i have to accept my destiny from Allah. My nasib, My mukhadar.... Allah make this for me?

Your husband is trying to envelope his shortcomings and his deficiencies to the Destiny and Fate Decreed by Allah Subhanah!

Respected Sister, under the circumstances, you have basically two lawful options:

1. Accept the condition the lies and the deceit of your husband has put you and your children in, and thus save your marriage keeping your trust in the solemn promise of your Lord All-Knowing: that no doer of injustice will be left unquestioned in His Majestic Presence on that Inevitable Day of Judgment.
2. You are well within your rights in Islam to seek a permanent separation from your husband through the institution of divorce; and under the circumstances there would be absolutely no blame or sin upon you.

Your Question: ….And he also do false report to legal law, that he was sigle to get nikah book. As in indonesia system to get second marriage have to get permission from first wife. it means he deny me as his wife, and he deny his 4 kids. in front of Allah.

Shariah Law does not require that a person take permission from his first wife to take another wife. If your husband lied to the law of the land that he was single when marrying the other woman, then he is liable to the law of the land to prosecute him.

Respected sister, since he has subsequently chosen to marry the other woman, you do not have a right in Shariah to demand that he divorce her and keep you. You are well within your rights to seek a divorce from him, but you do not have a right to demand that he divorce the other woman and keep you.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.598 Narrated by Abu Huraira

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "No woman should ask for the divorce of her sister (Muslim) so as to take her place, but she should marry the man (without compelling him to divorce his other wife), for she will have nothing but what Allah has written for her."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan