Leave parents for work.
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Asalam
alikum Wa
Dear Brother in Islam
Recently i was offered a very rewarding job near Holy Makkah. I was thrilled to
hear that because i would be so close to Baytu-Allah, inaddition to this from
the worldly perspective it was also very rewarding. Double to what i would earn
in my present location. Importantly it was a Halal Source of Income.
My only problem is that although my parents are happy to see me grow in life
and deen alhamdulilah. At the bottom of their heart they are all the time
whispering that Please Dont Go. They dont want me to go there leaving them
here. I have stayed with them all their life and now they feel really down to
see that i will soon leave them for better career and more islamic country.
The good thing is that they are not verbally stopping me because every parent
in this world wants good for their children. But deep in their heart i can
sense an element of grief to see me go.
In such a situation, what is the best course of action from Islamic Point of
view:
1.
Should i take this new career which gives me an opportunity to move to a
Islamic Country close to BaytuAllah. This will also allow me to earn and save
more money which i can they use on them. And facilitate to settle some loans
they took from closed ones
2. Continue to live with my parents and be content to what i am earning now.
This will please my parents emotionally.
Please advice what is the course of action i should follow. Basically which of
the actions will please Allah SWT more and ensure greater rewards for me in
Akhirat.
Jazak Allah Khair for your time and response
Consfused Slave of Allah
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Answer:
Leave parents for
work
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, one cannot
over-emphasize the importance and significance of serving one’s parents in
Islam……
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses 23-24:
Your
Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him
Alone! Treat your parents with
great kindness; if either or both of
them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and
pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them,
just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 31 Surah
Luqman verse 14:
14 And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him and in years twain
was his weaning: (hear the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to thy
parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 14 Surah
Ibraheem verse 41:
41 "O our Lord! Cover (us) with Thy Forgiveness; me my
parents and (all) Believers on the Day that the Reckoning will be
established!"
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 46 Surah
Ahqaaf verses 15-16:
15 We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: in pain did his
mother bear him and in pain did she give him birth. The carrying of the (child)
to his weaning is (a period of) thirty months.
At length when he reaches the age of full strength and attains forty
years he says "O my Lord! grant me that I may be grateful for Thy favor
which Thou hast bestowed upon me and upon both my parents and that I may work
righteousness such as Thou mayest approve; and be gracious to me in my
issue. Truly have I turned to Thee and
truly do I bow (to Thee) in Islam."
16 Such are they from whom We shall accept the best of their deeds and
pass by their ill deeds: (they shall be) among the Companions of the Garden: a
promise of truth which was made to them (in this life).
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 151:
151 Say: "Come I will rehearse what Allah hath (really) prohibited
you from": join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your
parents: kill not your children on a plea of want; We provide sustenance for you and for
them; come not nigh to shameful deeds
whether open or secret; take not life which Allah hath made sacred except by
way of justice and law: thus doth He command you that ye may learn wisdom.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 36:
36 Serve Allah and join not any partners with Him: and do good to
parents kinsfolk orphans those in need neighbors who are near neighbors
who are strangers the companion by your side the way-farer (ye meet) and what
your right hands possess: for Allah loveth not the arrogant the vainglorious;
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 215:
215 They ask thee what they should spend (in charity). Say: ‘Whatever ye spend that is good is
for parents and kindred and orphans and those in want and for
wayfarers. And whatever ye do that is
good Allah knoweth it well.’
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated by Abu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah
(saws), what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6189 Narrated
by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘Let him be
humbled into dust! Let him be humbled
into dust!’ It was said: ‘O Allah's Messenger (saws), who is he?’ He (saws) said: ‘He who sees either of
his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter
Your Question:
Please advice what is the course of action i should follow. Basically which of
the actions will please Allah SWT more and ensure greater rewards for me in
Akhirat.
Respected brother in Islam, although both options
available to you are permissible in Shariah, the one which would obviously be
more Pleasing to Allah Subahnah and earn you unimaginable rewards in His
Majestic Presence would be if you were to fulfill the desire of your parents by
living with them and exerting yourself in their service.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.248 Narrated byAbdullah bin Amr
A man came to the Prophet (saws) asking his
permission to take part in Jihad. The Prophet (saws) asked him, "Are your
parents alive?" He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet (saws) said to
him, "Then exert yourself in their service."
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister