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My question is while having sex with my wife some times I used to put my penis in her hand to rub it to get pleasure. So is it permissable or otherwise we have to avoid it to do like this ?
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Your Question: My question is while having sex with my wife some times I used to put my penis in her hand to rub it to get pleasure. So is it permissable or otherwise we have to avoid it to do like this ?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 223:
223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will.
Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: ‘The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your wife."’ The companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded."
Related by Ahmad and Muslim.
Islam has allowed the husband and the wife bonded in the sacred institution of marriage every possible liberty to enjoy conjugal relations with each other, except three:
- It is strictly prohibited to have sexual intercourse with one’s wife during her period of menstruation.
- It is strictly prohibited to enter the woman through her anus.
- Although there is no specific prohibition mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, the majority of the scholars in Islam have voiced their opinion against ‘oral’ sex, whereby one touches the other’s private organs with their mouth.
Other than the above three restrictions, one may enjoy conjugal relations with one’s wife any place, any time, and any how their heart’s desire.
There is absolutely no ‘satr’ between a husband and a wife bonded in the sacred institution of marriage in Islam, and there is absolutely no harm and no restriction in Shariah if one sees, touches, rubs, or fondles, etc. the private parts of their spouse with their hands during their union.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
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