Husband stops meeting grandparents.
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Dear
brother/ Sister
Thanks
for your great reply my hasbund allows to keep my relation ship with my parent
but the isue i abaout out baby girl he for bide from taking her with me to my
parants and say that if i do i will be disobeying him kindly revert cause i
don't want to be disobidient
Jazaka
Allah khayr
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Answer:
Husband stops
meeting grandparents
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25:
As for those who break
their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships
which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the
earth, their’s shall be the curse, and
they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:
And He leads astray
only those who disobey Allah, who break
Allah’s covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what
Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the
Earth. These are indeed the people who
are the losers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws)
said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one
of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one
who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever
the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith
and kin).
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 8.15 Narrated by Anas bin Malik
Allah 's Messenger
(saws) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his
lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith
and kin."
The husband in Islam has absolutely no right to stop or
forbid his daughter from meeting or maintaining relations with her maternal
grand-parents, absolutely regardless of whether her grand-parents happen to be
believers or disbeleivers.
If the maternal grand-parents of the girl are
disbelievers, and the father fears that the disbelief of the grand-parents
might rub on his daughter, he may accompany her to meet her grand-parents, or
not leave his daughter with them for an extended period of time…..but to
absolutely forbid the meeting or maintaining relations of his daughter with her
maternal grand-parents would be absolutely unlawful.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A
creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the
Creator."
Thus sister, even if your husband were to command or order
you to make sure that your daughter does not meet, develop, or maintain a relationship
with your parents (her maternal grand-parents), you are not liable to obey this
unlawful command of your husband….for a creature is not to be obeyed when it
involves disobedience to the Creator!
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due
to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan