I had an affair with a girl and we want to get married to but somewher in my heart i was not ready at that time i love her today also and i care for her in this 4 year of period we commited sin also i mean we perform oral sex which we not suppose to do in ISLAM.
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ASALLAMWALLEKUM,
First
of all let me thankyou brother for removing my misconception of clipping nails
at any time as it is not prohibbited in ISLAM.
Brother
Burhan i comited a sin gunah-e- kabira i will say i had hurt an human feeling
let me very clear to you brother.
I had
an affair with a girl and we want to get married to but somewher in my heart i
was not ready at that time i love her today also and i care for her in this 4
year of period we commited sin also i mean we perform oral sex which we not
suppose to do in ISLAM. I had sent the marriage proposol to her my mother
talked to her mother also that my son wanted to get marry to your daughter and
my girlfriend said to me that i should hide my education because i am 10 std
passed and she is MBA and compare to her we are not that rich and educated
family so i thought if i will let her mother know that i am 10th std passed her
mother will never agreed on our marriage and her mother was not ready to accept
me as son in law so in this i played a dirty game actually i did this because
of another girl who is more beautiful than her and she wanted to get marry to
me and i also wanted to marry her so i betray my love my girl friend and i got
engaged to this beautiful girl and i dint let my old girlfriend to know about
my engagement and than i realized that i loveher very much and i cant live
withouth her my old girl friend but i am i basterd i will say i had intenally
hurt her feeling her heart after my engagement again i went to her house for
asking her hand i was already engaged than to i went because somewhere in my heart
i was having this feeling that i commited a sin and ALLAH will never forgive me
for my sin i said sorry 10 times to my old girlfriend that plz forgive me as i
was not honest to you but she think becuse of my mother our relation did not
work actually i am the main culprit Idont know what to do if i marry my old
girl friend than my fiance life will misserable because she love me very much
and i cant tell truth to my old girl friend also i dont have that much of
courage to say the truth and brother i feel ashamed of myself i dont know what
to do i had asked for her forgiveness but ALLAH will never forgive me if my old
girlfriend will not forgive me and my old girlfriend parent is also not ready .
brother
u tell me what am i suppose to do i need your mobile or telephone no i wanted
to talk to you regarding this matter or plz mail me as soon as u can .
MAY
ALLAH FORGIVE MY SIN AAMIN BROTHER PLZ PRAY FOR ME THAT ALLAH FORGIVE MY SIN
WHAT WILL I SAY TO MY ALLAH AFTER MY DEATH I JUST WANT THING TO BE GOOD AS PER ISLAM
ALLAHHAFIZ
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Answer:
Betrayed woman for
marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go
near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a
very indecent thing and a very evil way!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah
Aaraaf verse 33:
33 Say (O Prophet (saws)): ‘The things that my Lord hath indeed
(absolutely) forbidden (declared ‘haraam’) are: shameful deeds whether
open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning
of partners to Allah for which he hath given no authority; and saying things
about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.
For one who has been constant in transgressing the clearly
prescribed boundaries of the Lord Most Majestic by developing and maintaining
an absolutely unlawful and illicit sexual relationship with a non-mehram woman
to worry about the sin of ‘breaking the heart’ of the woman he had a lewd
relationship with…… is like one who has committed the heinous crime of murder
feeling guilty and worrying about the sin of hitting someone on the hand!!!
Your
Question: ….brother u tell me what am i suppose to do
Respected brother in Islam, first and foremost you should
turn back to your Lord in ‘taubah’ and seek sincere repentance for your grave
sin of developing and maintaining an illicit, lewd, and absolutely unlawful
sexual relationship with a non-mehram woman.
If you are indeed sincere in seeking repentance and subsequently amend
your conduct, it is expected that you will find your Lord Forgiving and
Merciful.
Whatever deeds one might have done in one’s past, if one
turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere ‘Taubah’ and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran
that He will forgive all the sins of such a repentant believer, even if one has
committed the gravest sin of all: ‘Shirk’!
Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only
will forgive the sins of such sincerely repentant believers, He will change
their evil deeds done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or
Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One
is aware that he has sinned, and
feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes
a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin
again.
- Turns
to Allah and seeks forgiveness,
before he has met with his appointment of death.
- Is
a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged
their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely,
Allah forgives all sins. He
indeed is the All Forgiving, All
Merciful. Return to your Lord and
submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you;
for then you may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much,
who, if ever they commit a base deed or
wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those
who walk humbly on the earth. When the
ignorant people behave insolently towards them,
they say, “Peace to you”; (And
those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save
us from the torment of Hell, for its
torment is killing! It is an evil
abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has
forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who
does this shall be punished for his sin,
and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of
ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE
REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE
BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For
then, Allah will change his evil deeds
into good deeds, and He is very
Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly
should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our
Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule
of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil
in ignorance, and thereafter repented
and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah
accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in
death."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2339 Narrated by Abu Sa'id
Allah's Messenger (saws) said that the
Shaytaan said, "By Thy Might, my Lord, I shall continue to lead Thy
servants astray as long as their spirits are in their bodies!" The Lord, Who is Great and Glorious, replied,
"By My Might, Glory and Exalted Station, I shall continue to pardon them
as long as they ask My forgiveness!"
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan