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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

I am a girl who was very innocent,and so innocent that i didnt even know about sex, but with the help of her friends got into a relationship and got stuck while they ran away. I felt this relationship was good, but this boy started talking about dirty things and started teaching me about sex,then he started with phone sex, then stealing from my parents purse and then asked me to run away with him. During my relationship with him he forced me into having sex with him, but then i wanted to do it everytime we saw each other. Things got ugly when i told him i will not steal and asked me to ask money from my father, i took it and gave it to him and told him that i need to pay back my father, but he did not pay me back, so some how i arranged the money through my friends and then i broke off with him. Later, i started having a relationship with my friend and had sex with him also.

After about 4 years i realised i had done grave sins and repented, and asked my friend that this was wrong and i dont want to do this again. So i forced him to leave me alone. Now it has been 2 years and am happy that i am not doing anything wrong anymore. I ask for forgiveness from Allah and ask Him to guid me as He has guided me to this right path.

I need help, how else do i ask for forgiveness. I pray 4 to 5 times a day, recite Tasbeeh-e-Fatimah and Astaghfaar, when ever i get a chance i recite the Holy Quran, I sometimes give Sadaqah in the form of money or clothings etc. and once i gave sacrifice (goat) in Ramadan without anyone knowing except my mother when my sister was going to get married through my friend by giving him money and with niyat that i am giving sacrifice for my family.

Am i right in doing all this, what else can i do to ask for forgiveness and should i tell my future husband about all this, and what should i do when he comes to know that i am no a virgin? Plzz help me, I am the worst person on this earth. I want to go into my grave as clean as i was born, how can i achieve that? 

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Answer:

Sins forgiveness

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Whatever deeds one might have done in one’s past and in ignorance, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in His Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of all: ‘Shirk’! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of the repentant believer, He will change their evil deeds done into good deeds!

The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:

• One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
• Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
• Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment of death.
• Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:

(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:

Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:

The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, “Peace to you”; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:

When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in death."

Thus my beloved sister in Islam, as grave as the sins which you might have indulged in your past are in the Sight of Allah Subhanah; never never ever should a believer despair of the vastness and unlimited magnitude of the Lord’s Mercy. If indeed one is sincere in their repentance, is a believer, and strives their utmost to do good deeds thereafter….it is expected that they will find your Lord Forgiving and Merciful.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan