Kiss and fondle, even fondle the genitals of each other while fasting.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
Burhan,
You
say in one of the answers (question 1797) that a husband and wife can sleep
togather and kiss and fondle, even fondle the genitals of each other while
fasting. How come you justify this. ISnt the NAFS violated.
Is
there any HAdith to justify your answer?
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Answer:
Kiss and touch sex while fasting
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, that particular answer
was in response to a specific ‘legal’ question asked whether if one sleeps
alongside one’s spouse during the fasting hours, or they kiss each other, or if
the husband fondles or presses the breast of his wife, or the wife touches the
private organ of her husband…..would such acts legally violate the validity of
one’s fast.
(The exact question
asked was: ‘During fasting sexual intercourse is Haram, it is clearly mentioned
in Quran, there is no doubt. but I want to know can we sleep with our
husband during fast, can kiss each other, If my husband fondle or press my
breast or I touches his organ then there is any affect in our Fast.’)
In light of the guidance
of the Quran and the Sunnah, there are basically five things which will break
or invalidate the fast:
- Intentional eating
- Intentional drinking
- Sexual intercourse
- voluntary semen discharge
- the menstruation of the woman while fasting
Thus although it would be best for one who is fasting to
fear Allah and abstain from getting sexually active with one’s wife, unless and
until one actually penetrates one’s wife through sexual intercourse or the
semen (mani) is discharged, the touching or the kissing by itself would not
‘legally’ invalidate one’s fast in the Sight of Shariah.
Your Question: Is
there any HAdith to justify your answer?
Sahih Muslim Hadith 2450 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab
Hadrat Umar ibn Khattab (r.a.) asked the
Messenger of Allah (saws): ‘Should one observing fast kiss (his wife)?’ The
Messenger of Allah (saws) said to him: ‘Ask her (Umm Salamah (r.a.), the wife
of the Prophet (saws)). She informed him that the Messenger of Allah (saws) did
that (kissed her while he (saws) was fasting), whereupon Hadrat Umar (r.a.)
said: ‘O Messenger of Allah (saws), Allah has pardoned thee all thy sins, the
previous and the later ones.’ Upon this the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘By
Allah, I am the most God-conscious amongst you, and I fear Allah most amongst
you.’
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.149 Narrated by Aisha
The Prophet (saws) used to kiss and embrace
(his wives) while he (saws) was fasting, and he (saws) had more power to
control his desires than any of you.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister