Should a wife follow her husbands orders even if they are against islam ?
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Obey husband against islam
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A
creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the
Creator."
The ‘usool’ or principle in Islam is that no command or
order of any in creation will be followed if its obedience involves the disobedience
of the Creator; regardless of whether that command was made by one’s parents,
or one’s husband, etc.
If one’s husband (or anyone in creation) were to order or
command his wife to do (or abstain from doing) something which is against the
Commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws); then the wife should not obey that
specific command of her husband…..but in all other matters, she will fulfill
all her lawful duties unto him.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 34:
34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has
given the one more than the other and because they support them from their
means. Therefore the righteous women
are devoutly obedient (to her husband) and guards in (her husband's) absence
what Allah would have them guard (their chastity, their honor, their husband’s property,
etc.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (saws) was asked which
woman was best, he (saws) replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when
he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a (lawful) command, and does not go
against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which
he disapproves."
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan