Masturbation instead of illegal sex
Mu' meneen Brothers
and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa
Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
upon all of you)
One of our
brothers/sisters has asked this question:
I still do not see
how you could link this with masturbation. How would you know what the limits
are? And its not a persons fault if his desires exceed his limits. Human being
has been created with desires. I think being a studnt in US, away from my family
and in an environment where I see girls and parties all around. And being in a
situation where the girls would themselves wanna do stuff with me, would
increase my chances on doing something that I might regret. If my desires
increase under such circumstances and I opt for the act of masturbation to
reduce my desires and hence keep myself away from acts that are unlawful in
Islam, this is actually a good thing. Dont you think?
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Answer:
Masturbation instead of illegal
sex
In the name of Allah, We praise
Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none
can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright.
We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your statement: I still do not see how you could link this with masturbation. How would you know what the limits are?
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 21 Surah Muminoon verses 5-7:
5 (The believers who will win through are
those) Who abstain from sex,
6 Except with those
joined to them in the marriage bond, or
(the captives) whom their right hands possess; for (in their case) they are free from blame.
7 But those whose
desires exceed those limits, are
transgressors.
Beloved brother in Islam, it is absolutely clear from the above Aayahs
of the Glorious Quran that any act of sexual nature done outside of the sacred
bond of marriage would be exceeding and transgressing the limits ordained
by Allah Subhanah. It does not matter
if the sexual act is concerning phone-sex, cyber-sex, masturbation, etc.; if it is exercised outside
the sacred bond of marriage, it will be
considered exceeding the limits ordained by Allah Subhanah!
Your statement: And its not a persons fault if his desires exceed his limits.
Allah Subhanah has given man
(and Jinn) two things which He has not given to any amongst His creation:
Intelligence and the Power of
Reasoning
A Free Will to do what he
chooses
The person, by his intelligence
and power of reasoning, and of his own
free will chooses to control his desires, and live his life within the limits of Allah Subhanah; will pass the test ordained upon man by the
Lord.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 79 Surah Naziaat verses 40-41:
40 And for such as had
entertained the fear of standing before their Lord's (tribunal) and had restrained
(their) soul from lower Desires
41 Their abode will be
the Garden.
The person, by his intelligence
and power of reasoning, and of his own
free will, chooses to be a slave to his
desires, and exceeds and transgresses
the limits of Allah Subhanah; will
miserably fail his test of life!
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 79 Surah Naziaat verses 37-39:
37 Then for such as had transgressed
all bounds
38 And had preferred the
life of this world
39 Their Abode will be
Hell-Fire.
Thus it is entirely upto the
person to control and restrain his desires, or transgress the limits ordained by Allah Subhanah. The reward and punishment for each choice is
clearly Decreed by Allah Subhanah in the above Aayahs of the Glorious Quran!
Your statement: Human being has been created with desires.
Indeed, it is true human being has been created with
desires! And that is the precise test
of life ordained for the human being by Allah Subhanah.
He who fears the tribunal of the
Lord and restrains his desires, he will
succeed!
He who transgresses the bounds
of Allah Subhanah, and becomes a slave
of his illegal desires, he will
miserably fail the test!
Q-4: If my desires increase under such circumstances and I opt for the act of masturbation to reduce my desires and hence keep myself away from acts that are unlawful in Islam, this is actually a good thing. Dont you think?
Beloved brother in Islam, it should matter very little what a simple
person like me thinks or does not think! If you are truly in such circumstances as you have described, the last thing you need is a fatwa, or a religious ruling, or an opinion from a person like me!
You are the best person to judge
for yourself whether what you propose to do is right or wrong, good or bad, virtue or sin, within the limits of Allah or exceeding the limits
of Allah! Allah Subhanah has bestowed
upon every man a balance or conscience right in his own heart; which will
tell you immediately whether the act you do or the thing you say is right or
wrong, good or evil, within the limits of Allah or exceeding
it!
If you seriously are in a situation where you sincerely believe that the sinful act of masturbation is the absolute only alternative than the evil and abomination of the grave sin of zina; and you can convince Allah Subhanah on the Day of Judgement with this your argument in opting for the smaller sin; then the matter is something between you and the All-Knowing, All-Seeing, All-Mighty Lord of the Worlds; Who Knows even the most hidden secrets of our hearts! If you sincerely think and believe that Allah Subhanah will accept your justification and argument for opting for the smaller sin of masturbation compared to the abomination of zina, then that is a choice you will have to make yourself!
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,
Burhan