He divorced her three times when he was away from her and the news reached her when she was menstruating
Firstly:
The fuqaha’ differed concerning the divorce of a woman who is menstruating: does it count as such or not? The majority are of the view that it does count as such, but a number of them were of the view that it does not count as such. This is the view of many contemporary scholars such as Shaykh Ibn Baaz and Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him). See also the answer to question no. 72417.
Based on this, the first divorce does not count as such.
Secondly:
If your husband divorced you when he was away from you, and sent you a message informing you of that, you should look at the time when he uttered the divorce. If you were pure (i.e., not menstruating) at that time, then the divorce counts as such, whether the message reached you when you were pure or were menstruating.
What we understand from your question is that the first message reached you when you were not menstruating, and the second message reached you when you were menstruating. The time when the message arrived does not affect the ruling; what counts is the time when he uttered the word of divorce.
Having the divorce witnessed is not essential. If he utters the word of divorce then divorce takes place, even if it is in your absence or no one else is present.
Thirdly:
The 'iddah begins as soon as the word of divorce is uttered. The 'iddah of a woman who menstruates is three menstrual cycles.
If he divorced you when you were not menstruating, then you menstruated three times, and the third period ended and you did ghusl, then your ‘iddah is over.
Fourthly:
Your husband says that he divorced you three times. The fuqaha’ differed concerning the threefold divorce. The most correct view is that it counts as one divorce, whether he uttered in one phrase such as saying “You are thrice divorced”, or he uttered it in separate phrases, such as saying “You are divorced, you are divorced, you are divorced.” This was the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) and was regarded as more correct by Shaykh al-Sa’di and Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on them).
Based on this, it seems from what you say that you have been divorced once.
However, we say that with regard to divorce, every case must be examined in detail. Hence you should refer your case to an Islamic centre in your country, to make sure of what has happened.
And Allaah knows best.
Wister