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Is it ok for a man to have an extramartial affair with a unmarried girl.the girl and her family are ok with this time pass.the guy is not interested in leaving his wife..this girl called up at his home and said they are in sexual relationship.guy continues to meet secretly and does not confess to this affair.the wife has all proofs.she is in distress.please guide. 

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Answer:

Husband has affair

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: …..Is it ok for a man to have an extramartial affair with a unmarried girl.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:

33 Say (O Prophet (saws)): ‘The things that my Lord hath indeed (absolutely) forbidden (declared ‘haraam’) are: ‘fahisha’ (shameful deeds) whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which He hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.

Regardless of whether one or both parties are married or unmarried, it is categorically prohibited in Islam for the believing men and women to have a sexual relationship out of marriage!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:

Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 2:

2 The woman and the man guilty of ‘zina’ (fornication) flog each of them with a hundred stripes: let not compassion move you in their case in a matter prescribed by Allah if ye believe in Allah and the Last Day: and let a party of the believers witness their punishment.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.810 Narrated by Jabir

A man from the tribe of Aslam came to the Prophet (saws) and confessed that he had committed ‘zina’ (adultery). The Prophet (saws) turned his face away from him till the man bore witness against himself four times. The Prophet (saws) said to him, "Are you mad?" He said "No." The Prophet (saws) asked, "Are you married?" He said, "Yes." Then the Prophet (saws) ordered that he be stoned to death, and he was stoned to death at the Musalla (public gathering place).

Such is the enormity of the sin of having a sexual relationship out of marriage in the Sight of Allah Subhanah and in the Sight of Shariah Law that if one is convicted of the crime in a Shariah Court of Law the prescribed punishment is 80 lashes in public (for the unmarried ie. fornication), and to be stoned to death in public (for the married ie. adultery)!!!

Your Question: …..the wife has all proofs.she is in distress.please guide. 

Firstly sister, the time to thoroughly investigate and check the character and the practice of the deen of one’s partner in marriage is before one agrees to marry….not after one has married them!!!

If the wife is absolutely convinced that her husband is having a sexual affair outside of the marriage, and the girl the husband is having an affair with has herself confirmed that she is in a sexual relationship with her husband; and in spite of all this, the husband is neither repentant nor ashamed at his heinous crime…..the wife is well within her rights in Islam to initiate a divorce proceedings against her husband and there would be absolutely no blame or sin upon her.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan