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I want to know that, can daughter sleep on father's chest before or after her wedding, is this permit in islam. Can she sleep with father hugging tight & kissing  like small kid even after she gets married and what type of dress she should wear in front of father. please help me in this matter. we got married last nd she love her father more that her husband. she met her fater after one year whe he came down to our place, we stay in single room flat so three of us (father daughter nd husband) sleep on same bed, but she dont sleep with her husband she sleeps with her father hugging. her fater loves her daughter to very much. and one more thing can she wear dress which is viewable(inner wear).when i asked her to stop acting like small kid, she told i cant change my self and i dont want to hurt my father feelings, i dont want to make him feel that i have changed after marriage. her father thinks that she is still kid to her how she was before marriage. moreove she behaves like small kid front of father. please help me in this matter. please send me terms & conditions what islam tells about this relationship.  

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Answer:

Dress code in front of father

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 31:

31 And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except that which is displayed of itself; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves, whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! Turn ye all together towards Allah that ye may attain Bliss.

There is absolutely no ‘satr’ or ‘hijaab’ between a husband and a wife united in the sacred bond of marriage in Islam; and there is absolutely no restriction in Shariah regarding which parts of her body she may expose in the presence of her husband.

If the believing woman is in a gathering of only womenfolk or her other mehram relatives (father, brothers, uncles, sons, etc.), they should still maintain and obey the Command of their Lord to guard their modesty. The absolute minimum ‘satr’ of a believing woman when in the company of her mehrams (except her husband) is that all her body parts from the beginning of her breasts to her knees inclusive should be absolutely covered.

One should not take the absolute minimum ‘satr’ guidance as a license to dress inappropriately when in the company of mehrams, but they should fear their Lord and still maintain and obey His Command to guard their modesty and dress and behave appropriately.

Your Question: …i want to know that, can daughter sleep on father's chest before or after her wedding, is this permit in islam.

The father-daughter relationship in Shariah is considered sacred and ‘mehram’; thus there is absolutely no harm if the daughter, regardless of her age, chooses to display her reverence and her sacred love unto her father and occasionally sleep or rest her head on her father’s chest.

Your Question: ….Can she sleep with father hugging tight & kissing  like small kid even after she gets married

Regardless of the age of the daughter, or regardless of whether she is married or unmarried, such is the sanctity of the father-daughter ‘mehram’ relationship that there is absolutely no harm if the daughter chooses to occasionally display her reverence unto her father by hugging him tight, or kissing him, or leaning or resting her head on him.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan