Result of Istakhara
Mu' meneen Brothers
and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa
Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
upon all of you)
One of our
brothers/sisters has asked this question:
a friend of mine
has asked me to marry him. i did istikhara for two days yet im not sure if he
is the right person. we intend to get married in a few years
time. how will i
know if he is the one for me.
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Answer:
Result of Istakhara
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Translation
of du'a or supplication of Istakhara:
O Allah! I seek
Your guidance (in making a choice) by virtue of Your
Knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your Power, and I ask You of Your
great bounty. You have Power, I have none. And You Know, I know not. You are
the Knower of hidden things.
O Allah! If in Your
knowledge, (this matter) is good for my religion, my
livelihood and my affairs; immediate and in the distant, then ordain for me,
make it easy for me and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge, (this
matter) is bad for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs; immediate and
in the distant, then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it. And
ordain for me the good wherever it be and make me pleased with it.
An
istakhara is done when a believer has an option between a couple of good and
legal options, and he consults with the
All Knowing Merciful Lord to guide him/her to the path which is better for the
person concerned in this world and in the hereafter.
It is not necessary that one
gets a definitive or tangible answer or
a dream every time one does Istakhara.
When one does Istakhara, he
basically asks Allah Subhanah to make easy for him the option that is best for
him in the world and in the Hereafter,
and stop the happening of the options which are detrimental to him in
the future.
If the choice made is
right, Allah Subhanah will make the
option easily available and clear all the difficulties in the path of obtaining
that good option; and as one sees the ease
with which the option is carried out,
he/she will realize that this is indeed the right choice and the result
of the istakhara was in the affirmative.
But if the choice is wrong and
detrimental in the future, Allah
Subhanah will make the happening of the option difficult and one will
experience blockages and difficulties in the way of achieving that option; and at some stage, when after trying everything in one’s power the option is still
not coming to a conclusion, one will
realize that this was not the right choice and the result of the istakhara was
negative.
The guidance of the Messenger of
Allah (saws) while choosing a groom is very simple and comprehensive:
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith
3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger
(peace be upon him) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you
are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do
not do so, there will be temptation on earth,
and extensive corruption.'
If
one just looks at the outwardly wealth,
lineage, looks, beauty,
etc. alone while choosing a groom,
one may or may not get the option right; but if one abides by the
guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and satisfies himself/herself with
the prospective partner’s deen and his character, he/she will never ever go wrong. For ones wealth and looks and beauty and status may go away with
the span of time, but one who is
steadfast on the Right Path of Allah Subhanah will never ever compromise in
giving due rights and honor to his fellow human beings and will thus live with
harmony with his wife in this world,
and will work with her throughout to achieve the higher and eternal goal
of the Hereafter.
Whatever written of
Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever
of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows
Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,
Burhan