Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

I know that we are supposed to listen to our mothers and do whatever they say as long as it doesnt go against Islam. I was informed that if a mother does not approve of her son marrying a particular woman, he should not marry her. Now hypothetically speaking, what if the mother does not want her son to ever get married and just take care of her without having anyone else get in the way. What should the son do? Should he never get married?

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Answer:

Obey parents unconditionally in marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His  forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

After the rights of Allah, the biggest rights due are to one’s parents in Islam. But the parents do not have a right to permanently deny their children to marry! They have a right to guide their children to choose good righteous partners in their marriage, but they do not have a right to permanently deny their children to marry.

If one is in a situation whereby his mother is permanently denying his right to marry, he should politely try to convince her with patience and wisdom, and if she still does not agree, he should go ahead and marry. This will not be considered disobedience to the parents in Islam, and there will be no sin upon him in such a situation.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan