Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

i got married with a man who is already married with another one,when i decided to marry him he told me lie ,that after our marrige i give divorce to her n after marrige he call his 1st wife n we three stay 2gether in one house but different rooms but he is not going in her room after few monthes she went,but they stay contect each other n again she come back in diffrent area now my husband giving me abuse in front of her when he go there n not answering my call now im nt happy with him he alwys tell lie to me that;s y i want divorce tell me what im doing is wright or wrong by islam??? 

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Answer:

Wife seeks divorce

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3:

3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans marry women of your choice two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one or (a captive) that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice.

Allah has permitted and given the option to the believers who wish to marry more than one wife (upto a maximum of four) to do so provided they treat the wives with equality and justice. If one chooses to exercise the option of marrying and keeping more than one wife and does not treat them equally, the husband will be held severely accountable in the Court of Allah Subhanah on the Day of Judgment.

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2128 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘When a man has two wives and he is inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of resurrection with a side hanging down.’

If one’s husband wishes to exercise his option of taking more than one wife, and the first wife cannot bring herself to accept her husband’s decision….she is well within her rights in Islam to initiate a divorce proceedings against her husband and seek her freedom from the marriage; and there would be no sin upon her.

If one’s husband has legally married another woman, what the wife cannot and should never do, if indeed she sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day, is demand that her husband divorce the other wife.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.598 Narrated by Abu Huraira

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "No woman should ask for the divorce of her sister (Muslim) so as to take her place, but she should marry the man (without compelling him to divorce his other wife), for she will have nothing but what Allah has Decreed for her."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan