I am involved with a boy and we are physically intimate.we have made love and even mastrubated seperately.
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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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As salam walekum wa
rahmatullah wa barakatuh
I am involved with a boy and we are physically intimate.we have made love and
even mastrubated seperately.there has been time when i am alone and i want to
porn movies and sites and then mastrubate after the act i am very guilty and
keep sayin sorry in all my namaz also i read 2rakat salat al tauba becoz i am
truly sorry,i truly believe that i do mistakes wen ever i am with him or wen
ever i watch the movie i want to get over this and i fear allah so i dont want
to continue this.please tell me a way of getting rid of this habbit.im very
sorry to allah and i fear him a lot.i use to pray namaz 5times a day never miss
fajr isha also but now a days im too lazy to wake for fajr also during zuhr i
cut short my namaz i sit and pray i want to know wats the reason for all this i
dont want to be this i want to be back like how i was before i use to read
namaz quran daily please help me show me some way some duas to read dat my
heart will become more strong towards allah.
jazak allah i will wait for your reply in my e mail inbox
khudahafiz
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Answer:
Taqwa get closer to
Allah
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, your intention to seek
sincere repentance for your past from your Lord Creator and return back to the
Path of His Mercy is indeed a sign and an extension of the deep faith and fear
of the Lord Most Majestic and His Day of Judgment that you hold in your
heart. Allah is our witness sister,
nothing is more beloved to Allah Subhanah than the sincere repentance of His
slaves!
Whatever
deeds one might have done, if one turns
to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran
that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of
all: ‘Shirk’! Not only that, our Lord
is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive all the sins of a
believer who seeks sincere repentance, He will change his evil deeds done into
good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek
sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah
that he will not repeat his sin again.
- Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment
of death.
- Is a believer and does righteous good deeds
thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My
servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely,
Allah forgives all sins. He
indeed is the All Forgiving, All
Merciful. Return to your Lord and
submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you;
for then you may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good
people very much, who, if ever they
commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of
the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently
towards them, they say, “Peace to
you”; (And those) who pass their nights
in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our
Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his torment
shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection,
and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER
THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE
RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good
deeds, and He is very Forgiving and
Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly
should!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you
who believe in Our Signs, say:
"Peace be on you! Your Lord had
inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy.
Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his
conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah
accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in
death."
Your
Question: …please help me show me some way some duas to read dat my heart will
become more strong towards allah
Dear and beloved sister in Islam, it is not the mere reading
or reciting of some verses or chants which alone can make one stay away from
evil things….but it is the practical implementation in one’s life of the things
one recites from the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah which can and will
definitely help one, and gives one the knowledge, courage, and wisdom to stay
away from doings deeds which transgress the Prescribed Boundaries of Allah
Subhanah.
Thus beloved Sister, first and foremost, immerse yourself
wholeheartedly in reading the Glorious Quran with understanding in a language
you understand best, even if only once……Allah is our witness sister, nothing
brings one closer to Allah Subhanah than the recitation, comprehension, and the
implementation of the Wise Guidance of the Lord Who Created!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 16 Surah
Nahl verse 89:
We have sent down to you this Book (Al-Quran),
which makes everything plain, and is a
guidance, blessing and good news to
those who have surrendered themselves entirely.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 14 Surah
Ibrahim verses 1-2:
This (Al-Quran) is a Book which We have sent
down to you (O Prophet) that you may bring mankind, by the help of their Lord, out of the dark ways (of ignorance) into the
Light (of knowledge), to the Way of that
Lord, Who is All Powerful, and inherently All Praiseworthy, and the Owner of whatever is in the heavens
and the earth.
Respected sister in Islam, we assure you that there are no
‘magic’ verses in the Glorious Quran which when recited can by itself bring
upon one some desired good, or ward off some specified evil, or simply by its
recitation one becomes free from falling into temptation and sin!
Thus my beloved sister, the simple recitation of some
verses or ‘duas’ or ‘wazifas’ by itself will not ward off any evil, or stop
from falling into temptation or sin…..but it is only when one sincerely strives
to completely and unconditionally submit one’s will to the clear guidance of
their Lord Most Merciful, they will be able to tread that Straight Path that
leads to His Mercy and His Grace in this world and the Hereafter.
The one and only thing which has the power to stop one
from falling into pertpetual sin is to constantly strive to develop what is
known as ‘taqwa’ in the Glorious Quran!
This state of consciousness of standing in the Presence of
the Majestic and Supreme Lord One Inevitable Day is what Allah calls ‘taqwa’ or
piety in His Quran; and it is this ‘taqwa’ which will inspire you all your life
towards doing deeds that would earn you the Eternal Pleasure and Good Will of
your Lord, and it is this same ‘taqwa’ which will inspire you to abstain from
doing anything which would bring about His Unbearable Wrath and Anger.
‘Taqwa’ means to abstain from doing anything that would
bring about the Wrath and Displeasure of the Lord All-Mighty; and to do deeds
of righteousness which are commanded by Allah and His Messenger (saws). ‘Taqwa’ is to live every moment of ones life
with the solemn belief that One Inevitable Day every soul will be brought forth
in the Presence of the Majestic Lord to give a full accounting of every one of
his deeds. ‘Taqwa’ is to determine
before doing anything whether the Lord Most Merciful will be Pleased or
dis-pleased with the deed; if one determines that the Lord will be pleased with
the deed, one must do it wholeheartedly; and if one determines that the deed
would bring about the displeasure and Wrath of Allah Subhanah, one must strive
one’s utmost to abstain from it. ‘Taqwa’
is to live every moment of one’s life consciously striving to do deeds which
would earn one the Pleasure and Good Will of their Lord Most Merciful, and
abstain from doing deeds which would bring about His displeasure and Wrath.
If one studies the Glorious Quran, one would realize that
more often than not, wherever Allah Subhanah Promises His slaves the
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 133:
133 Be quick in the race for forgiveness from
your Lord and for a Garden whose width is that (of the whole) of the heavens
and of the earth; prepared for the ‘Muttaqeen’.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 50 Surah
Qaaf verses 31-33:
31 And the Garden will be brought nigh to
the ‘Muttaqeen’, no more a thing distant.
32 (A voice will say:) "This is what
was promised for you, for everyone who turned (to Allah) in sincere repentance
who kept (his law).
33 "Who feared (Allah) Most Gracious
unseen and brought a heart turned in devotion (to Him):
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 52 Surah
Tur verses 17-18:
17 As to the ‘Muttaqeen’ they will be in Gardens and in
Happiness
18 Enjoying the (Bliss) which their Lord
hath bestowed on them and their Lord shall deliver them from the Penalty of the
Fire.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 68 Surah
Qalam verse 34:
34 Verily for the ‘Muttaqeen’
are Gardens of Delight in the Presence of their Lord.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 16 Surah
Nahl verse 31:
31 Gardens of Eternity which they will enter:
beneath them flow (pleasant) rivers: they will have therein all that they wish:
thus doth Allah reward the ‘Muttaqeen’
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqan verses 15-16:
15 Say: "Is that (fire) better or the
eternal Gardens promised to the ‘Muttaqeen’? For them that is a reward as well
as a goal (of attainment).
16 "For them there will be therein all
that they wish for: they will dwell (there) for aye: a promise to be prayed for
from thy Lord."
Thus, in conclusion, my dear and beloved sister in Islam
the absolute best way to bring about this reformation in our hearts to get
close to the Remembrance of our Lord Who Created us; and the best way to
Remember our Lord is to read, understand, obey, follow and completely submit
ourselves to His Glorious Message which He Himself revealed for our guidance,
The One and Only Glorious and Noble Quran!
Allah is our witness, one who sincerely submits himself to
the Glorious Message of their Lord will find that his whole life will become a
life spent in the worship and praise of His Lord; their prayers, their fasts,
their zakat, their Hajj, their every work, their every relationship with their
fellow man, in fact, his every single deed will be aligned to earn the Pleasure
and Good Will of their Lord Most Gracious, Most Merciful, Insha Allah.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan