She knows she has done wrong. she is reading, praying, fasting, but still she is being chased by her old gang.
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asalaam
alaikum brother,
may allah reward you for all your efforts amen
my friend riyah is in terrible problems, i dont what advice to tell her, from
college she joined the wrong crowd and was smoking, taking drugs, clubs,
drinking, everything you name it, and now she is suffering and she is trying so
hard to change her life and repent, as clearly she knows she has done wrong.
she is reading, praying, fasting, but still she is being chased by her old
gang, and shes bankrupt, lost her house, lost her family, what can i advise her
to read, she is always repenting, reading quran, praying namaz - e - tasbeeh,
what would you advise
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How to avoid sin for
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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness
that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Beloved Sister in Islam, whatever deeds one might have
done in one’s past, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks
forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive
all the sins of such a believer, even if
one had committed the gravest sin of all: ‘Shirk’! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and
Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of that repentant believer, He
will change their evil deeds done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or
Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One
is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes
a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin
again.
- Turns
to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment of
death.
- Is
a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged
their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely,
Allah forgives all sins. He indeed
is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before
the scourge overtakes you; for then you
may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much,
who, if ever they commit a base deed or
wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those
who walk humbly on the earth. When the
ignorant people behave insolently towards them,
they say, “Peace to you”; (And
those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save
us from the torment of Hell, for its
torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his torment
shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection,
and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER
THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE
RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good
deeds, and He is very Forgiving and
Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly
should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our
Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule
of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil
in ignorance, and thereafter repented
and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah
accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in death."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2339 Narrated by Abu Sa'id
Allah's Messenger (saws) said that the
Shaytaan said, "By Thy Might, my Lord, I shall continue to lead Thy
servants astray as long as their spirits are in their bodies!" The Lord, Who is Great and Glorious, replied,
"By My Might, Glory and Exalted Station, I shall continue to pardon them
as long as they ask My forgiveness!"
Your
Question: …..what can i advise her to read,
The one and only thing which has the power to stop one
from falling into perpetual sin is what is known as ‘taqwa’ in the Glorious
Quran! It is only and only this ‘taqwa’
or the constant remembrance or fear of the Lord which has the capacity and
tenacity to enable one to abstain from transgressing the prescribed boundaries
of the Lord Most Majestic, Most Supreme.
This state of consciousness of standing in the Presence of
the Majestic and Supreme Lord on One Inevitable Day is what Allah calls ‘taqwa’
or piety in His Quran; and it is this ‘taqwa’ which will inspire you all your
life towards doing deeds that would earn you the Eternal Pleasure and Good Will
of your Lord, and it is this same ‘taqwa’ which will inspire you to abstain
from doing anything which would bring about His Unbearable Wrath and
Anger.
Taqwa means to abstain from doing anything that would
bring about the Wrath and Displeasure of the Lord All-Mighty; and to do deeds
of righteousness which are commanded by Allah and His Messenger (saws). Taqwa is to live every moment of ones life with
the solemn belief that on One Inevitable Day every soul will be brought forth
in the Presence of the Majestic Lord to give a full accounting of every one of
his deeds. Taqwa is to determine before
doing anything whether the Lord Most Merciful will be Pleased or Dis-pleased
with the deed; if one determines that the Lord will be pleased with the deed,
he must do it wholeheartedly; and if one determines that the deed would bring
about the displeasure and Wrath of Allah Subhanah, he must immediately abstain
from it. Taqwa is to live every moment
of one’s life consciously striving to do deeds which would earn him the
Pleasure and Good Will of the Lord Most Merciful, and abstain from doing deeds
which would bring about His displeasure and Wrath.
If one studies the Glorious Quran, one would realize that
more often than not, wherever Allah Subhanah Promises His slaves the
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 133:
133 Be quick in the race for forgiveness from
your Lord and for a Garden whose width is that (of the whole) of the heavens
and of the earth; prepared for the ‘Muttaqeen’.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 50 Surah
Qaaf verses 31-33:
31 And the Garden will be brought nigh to
the ‘Muttaqeen’, no more a thing distant.
32 (A voice will say:) "This is what
was promised for you, for everyone who turned (to Allah) in sincere repentance
who kept (his law).
33 "Who feared (Allah) Most Gracious
unseen and brought a heart turned in devotion (to Him):
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 52 Surah
Tur verses 17-18:
17 As to the ‘Muttaqeen’ they will be in Gardens and in
Happiness
18 Enjoying the (Bliss) which their Lord
hath bestowed on them and their Lord shall deliver them from the Penalty of the
Fire.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 68 Surah
Qalam verse 34:
34 Verily for the ‘Muttaqeen’
are Gardens of Delight in the Presence of their Lord.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 16 Surah
Nahl verse 31:
31 Gardens of Eternity which they will
enter: beneath them flow (pleasant) rivers: they will have therein all that
they wish: thus doth Allah reward the ‘Muttaqeen’
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqan verses 15-16:
15 Say: "Is that (fire) better or the
eternal Gardens promised to the ‘Muttaqeen’? For them that is a reward as well
as a goal (of attainment).
16 "For them there will be therein all
that they wish for: they will dwell (there) for aye: a promise to be prayed for
from thy Lord."
Thus, in conclusion, my dear and beloved sister in Islam
the absolute best way to bring about this reformation in our hearts is to get
close to the Remembrance of our Lord Who Created us; and the best way to
Remember our Lord is to read, understand, obey, follow and completely submit
ourselves to His Glorious Message which He Himself revealed for our guidance,
The One and Only Glorious and Noble Quran!
Allah is our witness sister, one who sincerely submits
himself to the Glorious Message of their Lord will find that his whole life
will become a life spent in the worship and remembrance of His Lord; his
prayers, his fasts, his zakat, his Hajj, his work, his relationship with fellow
man, in fact, his every single deed will be aligned to earn the Pleasure and
Good Will of His Lord Most Gracious, Most Merciful …..and it is this same
‘submission’ which will inspire one to stay away from every single deed which
would bring about or ignite the Wrath and Anger and Punishments of the Lord
Most Majestic, Most Supreme.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister