Is Engagement an important act in Islam?
Mu' meneen Brothers
and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa
Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
upon all of you)
One of our
brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Assalamu Alaikum, Jazakumullah
for your efforts. I would appreciate if you could enlighten me on the issue of
`engagement` between a guy and a girl ie the verbal contract between the two to
get married after some period of time (this may be 2-3 years). Before they get
married, are they allowed to talk to each other in the absence of a Mahrem of
the girl, so that they can know more about each other? Chatting on the internet
is a case in point and also private phone conversations. How about exchange of
gifts? Jazakumullah once again.
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Answer:
Is Engagement an important act
in Islam?
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
The ritual of ‘engagement’ or verbal contract between a
believing man and woman to get married sometime in the future has absolutely no
basis or binding in Islam. Only the
contract of Nikaah is valid and binding between the couple. Thus instead of the ritual of
engagement, it would be purer for the
couple to perform the Nikaah, and then
they would be absolutely legal to each other,
even though they may wish to actually stay together as a married couple
2-3 years in the future.
The ‘engagement’ has absolutely
no legal binding in Shariah, and does
not make the man and woman mehram to each other. Therefore all the laws that apply to non-mehrams would apply to
the couple. They would not be able to
meet or talk to each other in private,
nor chat with each other casually on the internet, telephone, etc.
There is no harm if they
exchange gifts, provided the gifts are
not used as an excuse to meet and talk in private, and develop an illicit relationship before Nikaah.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,
Burhan