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My dear and loving brother

Assalamalikum

i just wnat to know, if my wife is not caring for my parents and not obeying them also use to fight all the time with me and with my parents. In these conditions if my parents say to divorce her.Is it must for me to obey them and divorce her.

kindly give your guidence.

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Answer:

Parents command divorce wife

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2173 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Of all the lawful acts’ the most detestable to Allah is divorce.’

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2172 Narrated by Muharib

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Allah did not make anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.’

Dear and beloved brother in Islam, if as you have said your wife does not honor your parents and is constantly fighting with you and your parents….and your parents have recommended you to divorce her because of her attitude towards you and them; as hated and as detestable divorce is in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, under such circumstances, it would be best to heed the guidance of your parents and divorce your wife who is unable to honor you, your marriage, and above all your parents.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda

When a man came to him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he (Abud-Darda) replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan