I was in lov with a sunni guy but forcefully married to another huy of my parents choice
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I was in lov with a sunni guy but forcefully married to another huy of my parents choice though i was never ready for this marriege and i told my mom that if she married me focefully i wil take divorce and come back she said once we marry u do what ever you want. though it had been a year iam not yet able to forget that person and love my husband. though my husband is a very good person and says he likes me a lot even though i told him about my past very first night.i also care for him but unable to love me or divote myself to him and want good for him and wish that he marry a girl who can keep him happy and love me deeply. now with my wish to get divorce we are about to but iam confused if its right in eyes of allah or iam a sinner pls giude me as soon as possible that if my takeing khula is right or not.
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Divorce and marry another
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rome verse 21:
21 And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He (Allah) has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily, in that are Signs for those who reflect.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 19 (part):
19 … If ye take a dislike to them (in marriage), it may be that ye dislike a thing and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2173 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Of all the lawful acts’ the most detestable to Allah is divorce.’
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2172 Narrated by Muharib
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Allah did not make anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.’
Respected Sister in Islam, if as you say your husband is a very good man, and he declares that he loves you a lot, and if he is fulfilling all his duties and responsibilities unto you, and you too care about him….and your only reason to initiate a divorce against your husband is because of your love for another person….then the truth is sister, such a decision would definitely not be pleasing or acceptable to Allah Subhanah.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2218 Narrated by Thawban
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘If any woman asks
her husband for divorce without some strong reason, (even) the odour of
As your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith, our humble advice to you would be to fear Allah your Lord, commit wholeheartedly to your marriage, and seek not a divorce from such a good person who loves you so much. It may be that you like a thing, but it might not be good for you; and you dislike a thing, but Allah Subhanah may bring about a great deal of good from it.
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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,