I was in lov with a sunni guy but forcefully married to another huy of my parents choice
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ASLK,
I was
in lov with a sunni guy but forcefully married to another huy of my parents
choice though i was never ready for this marriege and i told my mom that if she
married me focefully i wil take divorce and come back she said once we marry u
do what ever you want. though it had been a year iam not yet able to forget
that person and love my husband. though my husband is a very good person and
says he likes me a lot even though i told him about my past very first night.i
also care for him but unable to love me or divote myself to him and want good
for him and wish that he marry a girl who can keep him happy and love me
deeply. now with my wish to get divorce we are about to but iam confused if its
right in eyes of allah or iam a sinner pls giude me as soon as possible that if
my takeing khula is right or not.
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Answer:
Divorce and marry another
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah
Rome verse 21:
21 And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among
yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He (Allah) has
put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily, in that are Signs for
those who reflect.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa
verse 19 (part):
19 … If ye take a dislike to
them (in marriage), it may be that ye dislike a thing and Allah brings
about through it a great deal of good.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2173 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Of all the lawful
acts’ the most detestable to Allah is divorce.’
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2172 Narrated by Muharib
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Allah did not make
anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.’
Respected Sister in Islam, if as you say your husband is a
very good man, and he declares that he loves you a lot, and if he is fulfilling
all his duties and responsibilities unto you, and you too care about him….and
your only reason to initiate a divorce against your husband is because of your
love for another person….then the truth is sister, such a decision would
definitely not be pleasing or acceptable to Allah Subhanah.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2218 Narrated by Thawban
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘If any woman asks
her husband for divorce without some strong reason, (even) the odour of
As your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith, our
humble advice to you would be to fear Allah your Lord, commit wholeheartedly to
your marriage, and seek not a divorce from such a good person who loves you so
much. It may be that you like a thing,
but it might not be good for you; and you dislike a thing, but Allah Subhanah
may bring about a great deal of good from it.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister