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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

AssalamAlikum..

This is regarding the selecting the life partner. As said in Quran one should select his/her life partner who is religious. After that only one should give consideration for bueaty and wealth etc. my problem is below:

I have got some alliances, one from outside the family and other from within the family relationship (distance relationship uncle`s daughter). The alliance which i got from outside is good in all the aspect. And the match which came from within relationship (uncle) is also good in all aspect,but not in wealth.

I have not seen any girl yet.I have seen only photos. By grace of ALLAH i have got good edcuation and reasonably enough wealth. I am unable to deside which girl is should see and select as my life partner.

The match within family relationship( uncles daughter) has invited me many time to come and see the girl. As iam not sure of what i want in life, i did not go, and i keep on postponing my visit to see the girl. Till today i have not seen the girl.

My preference are as follows:

Girl should have :

1) Belief in Islam/religious

2) Good Looking

3) Able to work with me.

4) Good family background.

5) Wealth.

1) One time i feel to marry a girl from my family relations (uncle-daughter). But doing that i may face finanial problems. But by heart i will be happy.
2) Some time i feel to marry a girl from outside the relationships. This will give me good wealth and finanial support and etc. This girls is also good looking.

My life is really at crossroad. i could not available to decide which girl is should see. My parents wish is, to get marry girl from outside family relationship. Please kindly guide me. Reply to this quaries as early as possible.  

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Answer:

Which girl to choose to marry

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Dear and Beloved Brother in Islam, the advice and guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws) regarding the choice of one’s wife is extremely concise and precise: one should chose to marry a religious, righteous, and God-fearing woman otherwise he will be amongst the losers!

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

If you have more than one option, then chose the one who is more pious, religious, and God-fearing than the other; for that one criteria will stand in good stead with you not only in the life of this world, but also in the eternal and everlasting life of the Hereafter. If you are still unable to decide, then perform the Sunnah prayers and supplication of ‘istakhara’ seeking Allah’s Guidance and wherever your heart inclines, be absolutely content with that decision and believe with conviction that it is the decision that is blessed and pleasing to your Lord Most Gracious.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan