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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Hello, I am going to convert to Islam, I have been reading the Qur`an alot lately. I am seeing a Muslim guy that doesn`t follow everything exactly and needs to get back into it. However, when I become a Muslim, I am aware that I cannot see him anymore or talk to him on the phone. But I was wondering if talking to him Online would be ok? And is there any other way I could stay in contact with him? We really like eachother, but we don`t want to sin. If you could help, I`d appreciate it. Thank you !

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Answer:

Chat online

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:

5 This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time, when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).

Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 3118 Narrated byUmar ibn al-Khattab

The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a (non-mehram) woman, the Shaitaan is the third."

The casual chatting of two non-mehram members of the opposite sex would be considered developing a relationship, and such lewdness and secret intrigues are indeed a sin in the Sight of the Lord.

Your Question: And is there any other way I could stay in contact with him? We really like each other, but we don`t want to sin.

Beloved sister, it is indeed a sign of your righteousness that even before formally accepting Islam, you have developed the piety and fear of transgressing a boundary of the Lord Creator and falling into a in. May the Lord Creator increase your piety and righteousness and bestow upon you the wisdom and the courage to choose a path which is pleasing and acceptable to Him.

Beloved sister, the only way you could stay in touch with the non-mehram person is to accept Islam and then officially marry him; other than this one lawful and legal process of marriage, there is no lawful way to develop a secret relationship with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex and still maintain the boundaries of Islam.

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan