I`ve been repenting to God but then I tend to break it. I`ve broke my repentance to the Lord twice. I commit Fornication all the time. I am really ashamed of it.
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Dear
Brother,
I have a situation that I`m in and I`d like some help through your advice.
I`ve been repenting to God but then I tend to break it. I`ve broke my
repentance to the Lord twice. I commit Fornication all the time. I am really
ashamed of it.
I know it is a terrible sin to commit fornication, however I always have this
thing in my mind that I`ll never do it again, but then whenever I meet my
boyfriend, we always end up making love. I really love him. It`s not that I`m
just making love to get pleasure. However this isn`t a good excuse that I love
him so that makes it All Right to make love cause I know it`s still a sin.
I used to be a good Muslim, Pray 5 times, whenever I missed a Salat, I would
still pray it Delayed. I used to recite the Holy Quran everyday, I felt I was
going on the right path.
Now everything is turning the other way round, I broke my repentance, am
Fornicating, using bad language all the time, not praying 5 times, I pray
hardly 1 salat a day, I don`t know what`s wrong with me. This has been
happening from the past 2 months. I always supplicate to God that he should
HELP me and He should make me stay on the right path, however I`ve realized,
everyday I turn myself away from religion.
I`m really AFRAID of this what I`m going through. I want to be a good Muslim as
I once was. I want to pray again, not Fornicate, I don`t want to go to Hell. I
am not afraid of dying, But YES I`m so Afraid of going to that Hell-fire
mentioned in the Book.
Please let me know if there is any Special Supplication or Wazeefa I can do to
change my life, and be a good Muslima?
Another Question- What does Islam say about Befriending Christian people?
All I ever knew was that God considers Idol- Worshippers or Atheist people as "Kafirs" But
Christian and Jews are from the same religion Abraham came from just like
Muslims.
Now
please let me know what does The Quran say about befriending Christians?
Thank you very much and please do help me out soon.
God Bless.
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Answer:
Repentance and Christians
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Please
let me know if there is any Special Supplication or Wazeefa I can do to change
my life, and be a good Muslima?
Whatever
deeds one might have done, if one turns
to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran
that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of
all: ‘Shirk’! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of the
believer, He will change his evil deeds
done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek
sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah
that he will not repeat his sin again.
- Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment
of death.
- Is a believer and does righteous good deeds
thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My
servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s
Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before
the scourge overtakes you; for then you
may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good
people very much, who, if ever they
commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of
the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently
towards them, they say, “Peace to you”; (And those) who pass their nights in
prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our
Lord, save us from the torment of
Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has
forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who
does this shall be punished for his sin,
and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of
ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE
REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE
BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For
then, Allah will change his evil deeds
into good deeds, and He is very
Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly
should!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you
who believe in Our Signs, say:
"Peace be on you! Your Lord had
inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy.
Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his
conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Dear and beloved sister in Islam, a special ‘wazifah’, or
slogan, or chant, or supplication by itself cannot convert one from being a
transgressor to a doer of good! What
does bring about a change is the sincere intention of a person to fear Allah
and the Last Day, stop transgression of the Laws of the Lord All-Mighty, turn
back to their Lord Most Gracious seeking sincere repentance for the deeds one
might have done in one’s past, make a solemn covenant with Him that they will
not turn back towards transgressing His Prescribed Boundaries, and remain constant
in doing good righteous deeds thereafter….it is the belief and the sincere fear
of standing in the Tribunal of the Lord on an Inevitable Day that alone can
bring about change in a persons’ attitude.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 79 Surah
Naziat verses 34-41:
34 Therefore when there comes the Great Overwhelming (Event: The Day of
Judgment!)
35 The Day when man shall remember (all)
that he strove for
36 And Hell-Fire shall be placed in full
view for (all) to see
37 Then for such as had transgressed all
bounds
38 And had preferred the life of this world
39 The Abode will be Hell-Fire;
40 And for such as had entertained the fear of standing before their
Lord's (tribunal) and had restrained (their) soul from lower Desires
41 Their abode will be the Garden.
If one sincerely fears the standing before the Tribunal of
their Lord Most High, turns back to Him seeking sincere repentance and
forgiveness for their past deeds, amends their conduct and strives to do
righteous good deeds thereafter….it is expected that they will find their Lord
Forgiving and Merciful.
Your
Question- All I ever knew was that God considers Idol-Worshippers or Atheist
people as "Kafirs" But Christian and Jews are from the same religion
Abraham came from just like Muslims.
The Lord Creator has
divided his creation of mankind in two groups according to their beliefs:
- One
group are those who believe in the Absolute and Supreme Oneness of Allah,
believe in all His appointed Messengers, believe in all
His Revealed Books, believe in the Angels, believe in the concept of the
Hereafter, and believe in the Divine Decree or Qadr of their Lord….this
group is classified as that of the believers.
- The
other group, regardless of their set of beliefs and practices, if they
disbelieve in any part of the above listed six aspects that constitute the
belief of the believers are classified as disbelievers by the Lord Most
High.
Because the people who call themselves Jews or Christians
claim their origin from the absolutely monotheistic deen of Prophet Ibraheem
(a.s.), they are termed as the ‘People of the Book’ by Allah Subhanah in the
Glorious Quran. But because these people
in essence deny Prophet Mohamed (saws) as the Last and Final Messenger of Allah
and the Glorious Quran as the Last and Final Revelation of Allah, their belief
falls short of being amongst the category of ‘believers’ and thus are termed by
Allah as ‘disbelievers’ in His Glorious Quran.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 98 Surah
Bayyinah verses 1-3:
The disbelievers from among the ‘People
of the Book’ (Jews and Christians) and the ‘mushriks’ would not desist until the
clear evidence should come to them: A
Messenger from Allah, who should recite
to them Holy Scriptures containing sound and correct writings.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 98 Surah
Bayyinah verse 6:
Those who have disbelieved from among the
‘People of the Book’ (Jews and Christians) and the mushriks, they
shall certainly enter Hell; and remain in it forever. They are the worst of all creatures!
Your
Question: What does Islam say about Befriending Christian people?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 60 Surah
Mumtahina verses 8-9:
8 Allah forbids you not with regard to those, who fight you not for (your) Faith, nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with
them: for Allah loveth those who are
just.
9 Allah only forbids you with regard to those, who fight you for (your) Faith, and drive you out of your homes and support
(others) in driving you out, from
turning to them (for friendship and protection). It is such as turn to them (in these
circumstances) that do wrong.
In light of the above guidance of the Holy Quran, Allah Subhanah guides the believers to judge
the non-muslims or disbelievers, including the People of the Book, under two
categories:
Category-1: Those
disbelievers who do not fight the believers regarding their faith, nor drive the believers out of their lands
and homes; Allah guides the believers
to deal with them kindly and justly….for indeed, Allah Subhanah loves those who are just.
Thus, if a
non-believer or a non-believing nation is not at war with the believers, there is no harm in dealing with such people
in a good, kind, and just manner; for indeed they are our brothers in
humanity.
Category-2: But Allah
has forbidden the believers to befriend those unbelievers who have declared war
on the believers because of their faith in Islam, and who drive the believers
out of their homes and lands; or those
unbelievers who help and support these enemies to oppress the believers. These are the unbelievers whom Allah has
guided the believers not to befriend.
Allow us to relate a timely example to understand the
command better. We see in the world
today that the
A good example of such a ban of friendship in today’s time
would also be of a Palestinian muslim or any other believer who would start
befriending some people of the Israeli army,
who are ardent enemies of Islam and the believers! Such a friendship would not be allowed in
the sight of Allah Subhanah.
Allah Subhanah has warned the believers that those
believers who do take such enemies of Allah and Islam as their friends; on the Day of Judgement, they will be counted as one of them!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah
Maidah verse 57:
57
O ye who believe! Take not for friends and protectors those who
take your religion for a mockery or sport whether among those who received the
Scripture before you, or among those who
reject faith; but fear ye Allah if ye
have Faith (indeed).
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah
Maidah verse 51:
51 O ye who believe! Take
not the Jews and the Christians for your friends and protectors: they are but
friends and protectors to each other.
And he amongst you that turns to them (for friendship), is of them.
Verily Allah guideth not a people unjust.
But if some people are non-muslims, but do not hold any hatred with the believers
or with Islam; Allah guides the
believers to be kind and just with such people.
Some people have taken the above verses of friendship with
the disbelievers out of context, and
have started a huge propaganda that Islam does not allow the believers to take
the non-muslims as friends! But that
is an inaccurate understanding!
Those non-muslims who have no enmity with the
believers, there is absolutely no harm
in keeping good relations with them,
being kind to them, helping them in humanity, and dealing with them in
justice.
In light of the context of the guidance of the Quran and
the Sunnah, only those non-muslims who have a hatred against the believers
because of their faith in Islam; Allah has commanded the believers not to
befriend them.
If one trusts,
obeys, and follows the guidance
and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being
misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger
(saws), one can be assured of being led
astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister