I met my husband two years before. And after sometime we commited the most dirty sin of all.
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Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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Dear
Brother of Islam,
I have read some questions and answers from this part. and i got soo many
answers for the questions that botherd me for soo long. But this particular
part confused me..
I met my husband two years before. And after sometime we commited the most
dirty sin of all. after it happened i did feel guilty and asked for Allah`s
forgivness. But again it happened a lot.. i was so ashamed and felt guilty for
it, i no longer has the heart to ask for forgivness as i felt that i might
unintentionally mock allah`s mercifullness. but i still have the regret in my
heart and is intending to correct my sins. we are married now.
my
confusion is after we two commited zina, arent we allowed to marry?
we did
not marry to make our s*x life legal but bacause we love each other and want to
have a life and children. We made the mistake because we loved each other soo
much. and before we made the mistake we were planing to marry.
could you please advise me is our marriage legal under the circumstances?
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Answer:
Marriage lawful after zina
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your
Statement: But again it happened a lot.. i was so ashamed and felt guilty for
it, i no longer has the heart to ask for forgivness as i felt that i might
unintentionally mock allah`s mercifullness. but i still have the regret in my
heart and is intending to correct my sins.
Dear and beloved sister in Islam, whatever deeds one might
have done in one’s past, if one turns to
Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran
that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer.
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or
Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One
is aware that he has sinned, and
feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes
a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin
again.
- Turns
to Allah and seeks forgiveness,
before he has met with his appointment of death.
- Is
a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged
their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely,
Allah forgives all sins. He indeed
is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before
the scourge overtakes you; for then you
may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much,
who, if ever they commit a base deed or
wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those
who walk humbly on the earth. When the
ignorant people behave insolently towards them,
they say, “Peace to you”; (And
those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save
us from the torment of Hell, for its
torment is killing! It is an evil
abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his torment
shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection,
and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER
THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE
RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good
deeds, and He is very Forgiving and
Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly
should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our
Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule
of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil
in ignorance, and thereafter repented and
amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Dear and beloved sister, never never ever despair of the
magnitude and vastness of the Mercy of your Lord Most Merciful. Regardless of how many times one might have
transgressed the boundaries of their Lord in their ignorance, if one is
sincerely repentant at ones past deeds, turns back to their Lord seeking
forgiveness, believes and amends their conduct thereafter; it is expected that
they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Your
Question: my confusion is after we two commited zina, arent we allowed to
marry? could you please advise me is our marriage legal under the
circumstances?
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah
accepts a servant's repentance till he gives up his spirit in death."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2339 Narrated by Abu Sa'id
Allah's Messenger (saws) said that the
Shaytaan said, "By Thy Might, my Lord, I shall continue to lead Thy
servants astray as long as their spirits are in their bodies." The Lord, Who is Great and Glorious, replied,
"By My Might, Glory and Exalted Station, I shall continue to pardon them
as long as they ask My forgiveness."
Hadith Qudsi 34
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said that Allah
Subhanah, High and Exalted He is, says: ‘O son of Adam, so long as you call
upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall
not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins
to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I
would forgive you. O son of Adam, were
you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to
face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as
great at it.’
Dear and beloved sister in Islam, never never ever despair
of the Mercy of your Lord Most Gracious Most Merciful. Regardless of what or how many sins one might
have committed in one’s past, if one turns back to their Lord seeking sincere
forgiveness, their Lord will accept their repentance and wipe out all their
sins from their Book of Records. Such is
the vastness and magnitude of the Mercy of the One Who, without an iota of a
doubt, is the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy.
If all the legal conditions of an Islamic marriage
(proposal and acceptance, determination of mehr, availability of two witnesses
to the marriage contract, consent of the ‘wali’ of the bride, etc.) were met at
the time of your ‘nikaah’ with your husband, rest absolutely assured that your
marriage is absolutely legal, lawful, and valid in the Sight of Shariah Law, of
the believers, and above all, in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
For all the innumerable Favors and Mercies of the Lord
Most Gracious on His believing and repentant slaves, it only befits and behoves
righteousness that the true slave-servant of the Lord commits himself to the
absolute submission and obedience of his Lord until death separates his body
from his soul.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan