Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

assalamoalikum

i wanna tell u about my married life we marries before 2 years we had a baby girl now after 2 years my husband had an affair with my old friend with whome my husband is also involved before marriage i dont know what i have to do now i pray 5 times and make dua for my husband he said i want to marry her and dont wanna leave u and i never leave u but i (me) dont want this my life is very bad now a days every day and night i am crying for my husband that he dont love me tell me what i have to do i am trying to understand him that its all bad but he dont understand i love him a lot i donno what to do 

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Answer:

Husband wishes to marry again

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3:

3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one or (a captive) that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice.

Recognizing the polygamous nature of man, Allah Subhanah has permitted (but not commanded) the believing men to marry more than one wife and keep a maximum of upto four wives at any one time if they wish to do so, provided the husband sincerely intends to be fair and just amongst all his wives.

Dear and beloved sister, the truth is that by nature men are created polygamous and it is in their nature that they can hold, love, cherish and support more than one wife, and upto a maximum of four wives at any one time. If one amongst the men has made up his mind to marry more than one woman, there is very little one can do to change his mind….for if forced or coerced not to marry again, the person may very well divorce his first wife and take on another wife, or (Allah forbid) may develop illicit relations with another woman out of marriage, which is absolutely prohibited and a grave sin in Islam.

If one’s husband has decided to marry again and keep a second wife, the first wife has one of two options:

1. Accept the situation that her husband will get married again and save her marriage.
2. If she cannot bring herself to accept the situation that her husband is getting married to another woman for whatever reason, she is well within her rights in Islam to initiate divorce proceedings against her husband, and there would be no sin upon her.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan