Is it lawful to chat with na-mehram on the topic of only "Islam".
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my question is: is it lawful to chat with na-mehram on the topic of only
"Islam".
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Chat on Islam
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
The ‘usool’ or principle of righteousness in Islam is that
non-mehram men and women should not interact with each other without absolute
genuine need; and when they do need to interact, they should do so in an
absolute business-like manner making sure that their interaction does not start
developing in a relationship or friendship.
Allah, Who created
everything in existence along with its nature,
has made a natural attraction between a man and a woman. And Allah has allowed a legal way to
accommodate this natural physical attraction between a non-mehram man and
woman, through the institution of
‘nikaah’ or marriage.
Islam does not permit the casual friendship between a
non-mehram man and woman, as this sort of friendships sow the seeds of
destructions of morals in society. The
biggest evidence of this degradation of morals can be seen in the
societies which have allowed these
non-mehram relationships to flourish.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah
Ahzaab verse 53: If you (the noble companions of the Prophet) have to ask the
wives of the Prophet for something, ask
for it from behind a curtain. This is a
better way for the purity of your, as
well as their hearts.
The above command is for some of the most noble and best
people who ever lived on this planet earth;
the companions of the Prophet,
and the chaste and noble wives of the Prophet of Allah (saws). Allah commands the companions of the
Prophet (saws) that if they have to ask for something from the wives of the
Prophet (saws), they should do so from
behind a veil or a curtain, because this
way is better and purer for both, the
companions and the wives of the Prophet (saws). No people could have controlled their
emotions and feared Allah more than the noble companions and the chaste wives
of the Prophet (saws); but even to such
noble souls, Allah has commanded that it
is purer and better that if they need to talk to the wives of the Prophet
(saws), they should do so from behind a veil or barrier.
For those who claim that their intentions are ‘pure’ when
they talk or interact with non-mehram members of the opposite sex, they should
know that no human beings who ever walked on this planet earth other than the
Prophets of Allah were purer or feared Allah more than the noble and chaste
wives and the noble companions of the Last Prophet of Allah (saws)…but even
they were required and commanded by their Lord to abstain from casual
interaction with each other!
The principle in Islam is that if one’s intentions are
‘pure’, then they should strive to keep them pure and not intentionally put
themselves in a situation whereby the Shaytaan may inspire or invite them
towards ‘impure’ thoughts. A similitude of this guidance would be when one wears
pure and clean clothes, one makes sure that his clothes remain pure and clean
and one who is careful would not intentionally put himself in a situation where
the purity or cleanliness of his clothes are harmed.
Your Question: my
question is: is it lawful to chat with na-mehram on the topic of only
"Islam".
There is absolutely no harm if one wishes to consult or ask a learned person or
a scholar about some particular aspect of the deen; but to ‘chat’ or develop a casual
friendship or relationship with a non-mehram in the guise of learning the deen,
or hold a casual ‘chat’ about other things which has little to do with seeking
knowledge and more to do with developing a relationship would be absolutely
against the principles of decency, righteousness, and piety which the deen of
Islam encourages and upholds.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,