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I have one friend who is married, we started up as good friends. I started caring and loving her much once she was pregnant and had a mis-carriage

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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)


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I have one friend who is married, we started up as good friends. I started caring and loving her much once she was pregnant and had a mis-carriage. I made up my mind to keep her smiling and happy and very soon I gave her the respect i give to my elder sister and soon she also loved me as his younger brother. But sorry to say that one day we committed a sin i.e. in my asent mindness i kissed her and touched her breasts... I feel guilty because till date she is not able to conceive and i feel that i am the reason for this and almighty is punishing her since she allowed me to touch her.. Please help me... what shall i do.... I love her very much and never thought of anything bad of her... I dont know why almighty is punishing her for my sins..

Please advise? 


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Punishing other for Sins

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.


Dear and Beloved brother, indeed the relationship between you and the married sister and the unfortunate incident that occurred are indeed grave and heinous sins in the Sight of Allah Subhanah; thus it becomes and befits a believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day that he should turn back to his Lord in repentance and seeking sincere forgiveness for his deeds. It is expected that he will find his Lord Forgiving and Merciful.


Whatever deeds one might have done, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of all: ‘Shirk’! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of the believer, He will change his evil deeds done into good deeds!


The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:

  • One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
  • Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
  • Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment of death.
  • Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.



Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:

(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”


Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:

Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!


Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:

When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."


Your Statement: I feel guilty because till date she is not able to conceive and i feel that i am the reason for this

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 42 Surah Shura verses 49-50:

49 To Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills (and plans). He bestows (children) male or female according to His Will (and Plan).

50 Or He bestows both males and females and He leaves barren whom He will: for He is Full of knowledge and power.


Allah Subhanah bestows the gift of children to whom He Wills and Pleases, and leaves barren whom He Wills and Pleases.


Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 35 Surah Fatir verse 1*:

18 Nor can a bearer of burdens bear another's burden.


Dear and beloved brother, the life on this earth is but a test and dedicated for the doing of deeds; and the True place for judgment, rewards and punishments is only in the Hereafter. Besides it is a prescribed and Just Law and Principle of The Lord Most Just that He will hold accountable only the person who, of his own free will, committed the deed. It is against His Principles and Laws of Justice to punish someone else for another’s error!


In light of the clear guidance of the Glorious Quran, your feeling that you are the one responsible for the sister being childless is absolutely unfounded and baseless .


As your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith we humbly urge you to fear Allah and leave the married sister alone, as your forming a relationship with her in any way is not only a grave and heinous sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, but could have dire consequences on her married life and the relationship with her husband.


Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4839 Narrated by Ali ibn al-Husayn ; AbuHurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Part of a man's good observance of Islam is that he leaves alone what does not concern him."


Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.



Your brother and well wisher in Islam,





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