Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

i have asked this question before but no answer

q.2 i have read all your questions relating to sex & marriage.

is it only the right of the man to have sex & ask for it .

what about the desires of a women ?can she not take the 1st step?what if a man becomes useless?

can a aomen marry a new man, so that he can satisfy her? 

(There may be some grammatical and spelling errors in the above statement. The forum does not change anything from questions, comments and statements received from our readers for circulation in confidentiality.)

Answer:

Can woman initiate sex?

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: is it only the right of the man to have sex & ask for it .

what about the desires of a women ?can she not take the 1st step?

There is absolutely no condition or restriction in Islam that only the husband has the right to initiate sex; the wife has an equal right to initiate the fulfillment of her physical desires with her husband.

Abu Dharr al-Ghaffari reported that someone asked the Prophet (saws): "O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded."

Your Question: what if a man becomes useless? can a aomen marry a new man, so that he can satisfy her? 

If it can be proven in a Court of Islamic Law that the man was impotent at the time of marriage, the Judge has a right to annul the marriage.

If the man becomes impotent or is not able to satisfy the wife sexually, the wife is well within her rights in Islam to initiate a divorce proceeding against her husband; and there will be no sin upon her. After the divorce and the subsequent period of ‘iddah’, the women is well within her rights to seek to marry someone else if she wishes to do so.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan