Talk to person one loves
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's
Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Assalam o alaikum
is it right for a women to love someone else
and marry someone else because of her parents happiness....and after her nikha
talking to the person who she used to love?
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Answer:
Talk to person one loves
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Islam encourages the believing man and the believing woman
to marry of their choice, and marry those amongst the believers whom they like. But when one consents to marry a person for
any reason whatsoever, regardless of whether to make her parents happy, or
because the person one loves does not wish to marry her, etc.; then one should
remain committed to the person one married with ones heart and soul.
It would not be considered permissible for a believing man
and a believing woman, if they sincerely believe in Allah and the Last Day, to
marry one and keep illicit or secret relations with another. Keeping such illicit relations with a person
out of marriage would not only harm and damage the relationship of trust
between the couple bonded in the sacred institution of marriage, but it would
be considered a breach of trust and a grave sin in the sight of Allah
Subhanah. If one was not successful in
marrying the person one loves for whatever reason, one should accept the fact
and devote ones full energy to the person one has committed to honor and love
in marriage.
If one has consented to marry someone for the sake of
ones parents happiness, and in the process had to give the ultimate sacrifice
of letting go of someone one loved and wished to marry; then it would only be
righteousness that one should honor ones commitment and sacrifice and seek the
reward of their sacrifice from Allah Subhanah on the Day of Judgment.
It would not behove and befit a believing woman, who
sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, that she should develop an illicit
relationship with any non-mehram man out of marriage; nor does it behove and
befit a believing man that he develop any relationship with a woman who is
married to another man; these would indeed be considered grave sins in the
sight of Allah Subhanah.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister