Why does a wife have to change her surname after marriage?
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Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
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brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Salam, firstly i would like to thank
u for this great service. I have a question regarding the change of the second
name after marriage for Ladies in the indo subcontinent. I mean after marriage
the women name is followed by her husbands name and not her fathers as it was
prior to marriage. What are the Islamic laws concerning this isse should we change the name or not. Thanking u in
advance. AllahHafiz
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Answer:
Why does a wife have to change
her surname after marriage?
In the name of Allah, We praise Him,
seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can
misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We
bear witness that there is no one (no idol,
no person, no grave, no
prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone,
and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of
His Messengers.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 5: Call them by (the names) of their fathers:
that is juster in the sight of Allah, but if ye know not
their father's (names call them) your Brothers in faith or your friends. But there is no blame on you if ye make a
mistake therein: (what counts is) the intention of your hearts: and Allah is
Oft-Returning Most Merciful.
It is not Islamic culture that a
believing woman drops her father’s name, and is called upon by her husband’s or
anyone else’s name. The guidance of
Allah and His Messenger (saws) is that a person must always be called by
his/her father’s name.
If Islamic culture allowed a
woman to take the husband’s name, then there is no bigger honor than to have
the name of the Messenger of Allah (saws) attached to
one’s name! But the wives of the Prophet
were always known, recognized and called by their respective fathers’ names, and never by the
Prophet’s name.
This custom of dropping the
woman’s fathers’ name and being called by the husband’s name, is a pagan custom, and must be avoided by the believers, who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan