Masturbation, cap cover, beard
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dear brother burhan i really loved ur site and i can not stop reading the
questions and answers on this site its a great work u have done and great work
to ask questions from u which we can not ask any body else.i have neve ever
mailed any web site or any t .v program what so ever but to u i just wana mail
badly i mean in a good sense (just joking). the answers u give are really
according to my mentallity and i get to beleave what u say and i dont really
beleave and like the tipical molves etc.
dear brother i have a few questions to ask u i hope u will answer me in full
detail so that i can help my self. i am a moderate type of religious person i
love to be religious as well as like to asume and know or get to know about the
bad things also and try to keep away from. but dear brother let me tell u that
i am badly addicted to masterbation since two years let me tell u my age and
that 23 years now but the problum is that what should one do when a person gets
adult and knows what sex is and can not keep away from i mean like u know in
now a days system a person can not easilly get married untill one has a nice
job or some thing to full the persons familly need or any other reason and one
can not simply get married weather its becasue of parent`s or weather its
because of many other situations. since i also used to feel very bad when i
used to masterbate and also when i masterbate a ask for forgivness from
Allah(s.b.w) but still i can not stop it or i stop it then i start doing it badly
so what can one do in a situation like this.
And please also tell me is it must to wear a hat when praying cause one can not
be haveing hat always with him etc so... .
and also about beard is it must for a man to have or man can shave theres no
problum with that,cause mostly majority of muslims or what ever are shaved and
shave there beareds.
i hope u wont be hard in
hopeing and wishing very soon to hear from u and
thanks a lot dear brother i love u for
thanking you
your brother
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Answer:
Masturbation, cap cover, beard
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
May Allah
Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind
comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the
Truth. If our humble and modest
efforts have helped even one brother or sister get closer to Allah and His Deen
of Truth, then we would consider ourselves indeed fortunate to have been given
this opportunity by the Lord Most Merciful to serve in His Cause. We hope,
beg, and pray the Merciful Lord accepts our humble and weak efforts, forgives us our shortcomings, and saves you, us, and all the believers from the torment of the
Hell Fire. Ameen.
Q-1:
since i also used to feel very bad when i used to masterbate and also when i
masterbate a ask for forgivness from Allah(s.b.w) but still i can not stop it
or i stop it then i start doing it badly so what can one do in a situation like
this.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf
verses 200-201:
200 If a suggestion from Shaitaan assail thy (mind), seek refuge with
Allah; for He Heareth and Knoweth (all things).
201 Those who fear Allah, when a thought of evil from Shaitaan assaults
them, bring Allah to remembrance; when lo! they see (aright)!
As soon
as one feels the desire, or the avowed enemy of man, the Shaitaan, suggests the
person to transgress any of the boundaries of Allah Subhanah; the believers should immediately seek the
refuge and protection of the All-Mighty Lord from the accursed Shaitaan by
saying: “Aoodobillahe minas Shaitaan ar rajeem”. If the person is sincere in seeking refuge
and protection, Allah Subhanah will protect him from the assaults of Shaitaan.
Some
other things the believers may do at such a stage is do the ‘wudu’, offer
prayers, or recite the 113th and 114th Surahs of the
Quran (Surah Falaq and Surah Naas) and seek protection from the accursed
Shaitaan.
The
long-term remedy for keeping the Shaitaan at bay, is to constantly remember
Allah Subhanah, seek and stay in the company of the righteous, recite the
Quran, read good Islamic Books, listen to good Islamic cassettes and
lectures, and strive to stay away from
being in solitude.
If one is
constantly in the face of non-mehram women, or if one regularly watches
commercial television and movies, or
regularly reads commercial magazines, etc. where ill-clad women are constantly
portrayed; there is a greater chance the
person will be swayed by the suggestions of Shaitaan towards ‘fahisah’ and
indecency. If one strives to abstain
from these devices of Shaitaan, and
makes efforts to remain close to the Remembrance and Guidance of Allah
Subhanah, he will be successful in muting the ploys of the Shaitaan.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 27: O ye children of Adam! Let
not Shaitaan seduce you in the same manner as he got your parents (Adam and
Hawwa) out of the Garden, stripping them of their raiment to expose their
shame: for he and his tribe watch you from a position where ye cannot see them:
We made the Shayaateen the friends to those without faith.
Alternatively,
the best things to do to avoid constant temptation towards masturbation, is to
take the advice of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and get married; and whoever
is not able to marry should fast, as fasting reduces the sexual urge of the
person.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated
by Abdullah
We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no
wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger
(saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry,
because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private
parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able
to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Q-2:
And please also tell me is it must to wear a hat when praying cause one can not
be haveing hat always with him etc so... .
Wearing a covering on the head while offering his prayers is not amongst the
obligatory acts for a believing male in Shariah. If one covers his head, or leaves it uncovered; both ways his prayers will not be effected.
The
dressing norm at the time of the Messenger of Allah (saws) was such that the
Arabs used to wear a turban over their heads;
and thus the Messenger of Allah (saws) normally always prayed with his
head covered. Thus, if the normal dress code of the person is
such that he covers his head (like the Arab ‘gatra’ or head-cover); then it is fine to pray with the head
cover. But if there the normal dress
code of the person is such that in normal circumstances he does not cover his
head, there is no need to specially
cover his head while praying. But if he
does cover his head, there is no harm.
Ibn 'Asakir related that the Prophet would sometimes remove his
cap and place it in front of him as a ‘sutrah’ for prayer.
It is
obligatory for a believing woman to cover her head and her full body while
offering her prayers.
Q-3:
and also about beard is it must for a man to have or man can shave theres no
problum with that,cause mostly majority of muslims or what ever are shaved and
shave there beareds.
Keeping a beard cannot be considered an obligatory command of the Prophet
(saws), but rather it was his
Sunnah, and the Sunnah of the all the
Prophets before him.
Growing a
beard was considered normal and natural for a man at the time of the Messenger
of Allah (saws), whether he was a
believer or not. Even the enemies of
Islam like Abu Jahl and Abu Lahb had beards!
And because every man naturally grew a beard, it was not necessary for the Prophet (saws)
to give an explicit command exhorting the believers to grow a beard.
The only
specific saying of the Prophet (saws) regarding the keeping of beards arose
when he saw that the pagans used to grow both their beards and their mustaches
long; thus he (saws) said to the
believers:
Ibn 'Umar related that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said:
"Differ from the polytheists: let your beards (grow), and shave your
moustache."
Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
It was
only a couple of centuries ago, when the
western culture and ideology became dominant over the world and muslim
lands, that it became a fashion to be
clean shaven. And as with any dominant culture, people are always ready to adopt its
actions, whether they are of virtue, or
of vice! But Islam has its own
culture, and growing a beard is part of
the Islamic culture.
The
question is why should a believer, who professes
to believe in Allah and the Last Day,
and who professes to follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah
(saws), want to grow a beard?
The
answer is simple. Today, you might have seen many youngsters copy the fashion
of sport-stars, Hollywood-stars or anybody else whom they love. If you notice
today, many hot
he had a
beard, and if indeed, we want to follow the Messenger of Allah
(saws), we should strive to grow a
beard.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzab verse 21: There
is indeed the best model for you in the Messenger of Allah, for every such
person looks forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remember Allah much.
In
another narration, the Prophet of Allah said in narrating a prophecy of times
to come:
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.651 Narrated
by Abu Said Al Khudri
The Prophet (saws) said: “There will emerge from the East some
people who will recite the Quran, but it will not exceed their throats, and who
will go out of the deen of Islam as an arrow passes through the game. They will
never come back to it unless the arrow comes back to the middle of the bow by
itself (i.e. impossible!). The companions asked, "What will their signs
be?". The Prophet (saws) said: "Their sign will be the habit of
shaving off of their beards".
Thus the
keeping of beards is a Sunnah of the Prophet (saws) and every muslim must
strive to keep a beard, if his model is indeed the Prophet of Allah (saws). He
will get his due reward from Allah, Insha Allah, if he keeps the beard to
follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws).
But if a
believer does not want to sport a beard for whatever reason, the other believers should not make an issue
out of it. What is important in Islam
and in the sight of Allah, is that one
truly believes and does good righteous deeds.
And when that happens, it is
expected that the beard will follow soon after!
The beard
is nothing more than a sign that the believer truly wants to follow a Sunnah of
the Messenger of Allah (saws). There
are many people who have long beards,
but do deeds against the commands of Allah and His Messenger
(saws). And there are many people who
are amongst the best believers, but do
not have beards! Allah will not decide
the recipient of His Mercy and His Forgiveness from the appearance of the
individual; but rather He will decide
whether the person believed and did righteous deeds, as he was commanded by
Allah and His Messenger (saws). The most
one can say of a believer who does not keep a beard is that he missed an easy
opportunity to earn huge rewards from Allah Subhanah.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister