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Assalam O Alaikum

I'm a subscriber of your Q&A. I read it and learn alot from them. First I want to request u to pls remember me in your prayers. Secondly, pls answer to my questions.

1) I'm worried cause of my brother. He is a good boy but very far from prayers. I have scolded him, talked to him softly and in all possible ways, try to convince him for Namaz but he offer them for like 2-3 days only. Pls help on this matter.

2) Also InshAllah i'm soon going to get married but recently i'm havin alot of fights with my fiance and trust me i dont feel like getting married to him any more but only one reason convinces me alot that is i and many other ppl performed Istekhara for our marriage and it was positive. What should i do i'm puzzled cause i have a faith in Allah's will but why dont we get along well. Pls help.

Take care, Allahafiz

Your Sister, AmY

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Answer:

Prayer and fiance

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Q-1: I'm worried cause of my brother. He is a good boy but very far from prayers. I have scolded him, talked to him softly and in all possible ways, try to convince him for Namaz but he offer them for like 2-3 days only. Pls help on this matter.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 66 Surah Tahreem verse 6:

O you who have believed, save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel shall be men and stones; over which shall be appointed fierce and stern angels, who never disobey Allah’s Command, and they only do as they are commanded!

May Allah Subhanah bless you and reward you for your concern for your brother and his state for his after-life. It is the duty of every true believer, who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day, to be a sincere well-wisher of his/her close relatives and loved ones.

In our humble opinion, it would be best not to scold him or force him; but rather the best results would incur if you tried with patience and perseverance and wisdom to instill the fear of Allah Subhanah in him, and remind him that every individual will be called forth alone One Inevitable Day in the Just Court of the All-Mighty Lord to give a full accounting of his deeds.

Allah says in the Holy Quran: Chapter 16, Surah An-Nahl Ayat 125:

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and excellent admonition and argue with people in the best manner. Your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Way and who is Rightly guided.

You could try to convince him to read with understanding the Message of the Lord, The Glorious Quran, in the language he understands best; or alternatively give him some good Islamic cassettes, or good Islamic books, or even try to seek the help of someone who your brother admires or listens to. At all times, you must remain sincere, polite, patient and steadfast in this service for the well-being of your brother for the sake of Allah Subhanah; and constantly beseech Allah Subhanah to help you, and beg Him to have Mercy and Guide your brother to the Straight Path.

You must remember never to loose heart if your brother never listens to your good advice, and continue your duty towards him to the best of your ability; even if it takes you a lifetime to convince him of the Truth. You must also acknowledge that your duty is only advice him to take the path that is Straight; and if after all your sincere and best efforts, you see that he insists on disobeying his Creator; then you should know that you have fulfilled your duty towards your brother. Your duty is only to invite in the best and most polite manner; for guidance is something that is in the Sole Power of Allah Subhanah. He Alone best Knows those who would accept guidance.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 28 Surah Qasas verse 56:

You cannot guide whom you love, but Allah guides whomever He Pleases. And He best knows those who would accept guidance.

Q-2: Also InshAllah i'm soon going to get married but recently i'm havin alot of fights with my fiance and trust me i dont feel like getting married to him any more but only one reason convinces me alot that is i and many other ppl performed Istekhara for our marriage and it was positive. What should i do i'm puzzled cause i have a faith in Allah's will but why dont we get along well. Pls help.

Beloved sister in Islam, once you are convinced that the answer of the ‘istekhara’ performed is positive in this choice of yours, rest assured that these are time-bound misunderstandings between two people and will Insha Allah disappear with a little patience and time. If you have got a positive reply from the ‘istakhara’ performed, it would be best to put your full trust in the Wisdom and Knowledge of the All-Mighty, for He Alone knows what is good for His slaves. Just because two people have a few misunderstandings or arguments on issues in the beginning of a relationship does not necessarily mean that they will remain at odds forever!

Allah Subhanah has blessed the people who have chosen to be bonded in the sacred institution of marriage with ‘mercy’ and ‘affection’; and if you are convinced in the results of your ‘istakhara’, then it would be best to put your full trust in the Knowledge of Allah Subhanah.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21:

And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them; and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan