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Salaam Alaikum,

Could you please consider the following Ahadith :

(1)“ Vol 5, Book 59. Military Expeditions Led By The Prophet (pbuh) (Al-Maghaazi). Hadith 709.

Narrated By Abu Bakra : During the days (of the battle) of Al-Jamal, Allah benefited me with a word I had heard from Allah`s Apostle after I had been about to join the Companions of Al-Jamal (i.e. the camel) and fight along with them. When Allah`s Apostle was informed that the Persians had crowned the daughter of Khosrau as their ruler, he said, "Such people as ruled by a lady will never be successful."

This was about a country or a nation. Does this apply to a family or household too?

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Answer:

Nation ruled by a woman

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: This was about a country or a nation. Does this apply to a family or household too?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34 (part):

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 228 (part):

And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them according to what is equitable; but men have a degree (of advantage) over them and Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise.

Allah Subhanah has given both men and women their sets and duties to be fulfilled in the sacred bond of marriage, and declared the man as the ‘Qawwam’ or protector and maintainer of the woman in a Islamic household.

If the woman takes over the leadership or becomes the ‘Qawwam’ over the household or the family, that would be something against the ‘fitrah’ or nature of creation; and anything which is done against the ‘fitrah’ or nature of creation would be detrimental to the peace and harmony of the household desired by Islam.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan