Baby born before marriage
Mu' meneen Brothers
and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa
Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
upon all of you)
One of our
brothers/sisters has asked this question:
i am young
trinidadian brother who is really need off opinions of those who have been in
this situation, or can help.
I have a new born
baby with a person I have not gotten married to, I guessing my haraam reason
for what I did was only because the things we dicussed about islam with me and
her was very appealing and i honestly tought we would have really have a happy
home, now the baby is born, she and her family has full controll over the child
and I am left out, altough, i make a genuine effort 2 support the cause i am
being shunned by some , things they have done that offended me.
They did not allow
me to shave her here, I was not given a chance to the right of the baby
caryying my name,they took the child to a caeholic churc without out the
permission or letting me know,her parents now are her biggest influence that
she has which they are claiming all that they have done is right, she knows
what is the right thing but she goe;s along with them,not giving me the chance
to the rights of my baby,.
Each and everytime
i go there i really feel upset like somewhat like insanity so i leave , and I
think its in my right to do so cause it affects the child, now i stay way and
support the child financially, please in form me what must be done to help this
situation, please all who read can email me personally , all I was looking for
is proper family life in a way I know Allah, would have been pleased with me.I
have done a grevious sin by now marrying her and i guess this is the penalty 4
my actions
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Answer:
Baby born before marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise
Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none
can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright.
We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Beloved brother in Islam, first and foremost you must sincerely seek
repentance and forgiveness from the Merciful Lord for the grave sin of
‘zina’; Insha Allah, you will find the Lord Merciful and
Forgiving.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:When those come to you who believe in Our
Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the
rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you
did evil in ignorance, and thereafter
repented and amended (his conduct), Lo!
He is Oft-Forgiving, Most
Merciful."
In view of Islamic Law, if the child is born out of wedlock, the father shall have no legal rights over
this child; nor will the child carry or
be known by the name of his father; nor
can the child inherit from his father;
nor can the father inherit from his child; nor will the father be given legal custody of the child. Under Islamic Law, the child will stay with
the mother, will carry and be known by
his mother’s name, will be a legal heir
to the property of his mother, and the
mother will inherit his property. The
father of the child born out of wedlock has absolutely no legal right towards
the child in Islam.
The child will be considered
absolutely innocent in the sight of Islamic Law and will not be blamed for any
of the actions of his parents. And if
the mother of the child insists that the father have nothing to do with the
child’s upbringing; she is well within
her rights to do so.
The best solution to the dilemma
is to accept the reality of the matter,
and if the mother is from the Jewish or Christian religion or if she
agrees to accept Islam, the two of you
can get married and raise the child together.
Even in such a situation, the
child will not carry or be known by your name;
he will always be known by the name of his mother and she will always
remain her primary custodian and guardian.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,
Burhan