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Asalaam Aleikum,

A sister of mine has been sending me some of the questions and I have really appreciated her as well as you people who answer those questons. I am affraid I am not connected to the internet but thru outlook I can get mails,well I was interested in the answer for the question about sex, romance and masturbation in Ramadhan, could you kindly send me your answer to that question.

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Answer:

Sex in Ramadhan

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Ref: Masturbation

This is a hateful deed in the sight of Allah, and whether it is Ramadan or not, one should fear Allah, and absolutely abstain oneself from this forbidden act and sin.

Ref: Sex

One is allowed to have sex with their spouses in the night hours of Ramadan. It is absolutely forbidden to have sex during the daylight fast hours of Ramadan. There are three things that break or invalidate the fast, and sex is one of them. They are:

eating

drinking

sexual discharge

Ref: Romance

If by romance one means to say poetry or words or phrases in praise of their spouse, there is absolutely no harm in doing so in Ramadan. If by romance one means to get his/her spouse flowers, chocolate, gifts, etc. there is no harm in doing so in Ramadan. If by romance one means to go on a moon-lit walk, or spend time together in the company of the spouse… there is absolutely no harm. If by romance one means to write love letters and send romantic messages to his/her spouse, there is absolutely no harm. In fact, romance between husband and wife is actually encouraged in Islam and considered a virtue and a good deed.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan