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Assalaam walekum, I need some islamic advice regarding the problem i am facing. I am facing issues wth my mother-in-law and sister-in-law since my marraige.They never liked me because i could not get anything(Jewellery or cash) wth me when i got married.They always tell lies to create fights and misunderstanding between my husband and myself .Now they are forcing him to divorce me.I always respected my in laws,i always listened to them.I tried my best to be good to them but they always had problems.They have controlled me in everything i do but i never complained. My husband trusts them and he does everything according to them.He never trusted me or believed me,he likes them so much that he blindly believes them.Now he is considering his parents decision to divorce me.What should i do.I want my marriage to work,i am not a coward to run away from this situation.I am alone here there is no one to help me or support me. I am going through a very bad time since 21/2 years. Please advice. Thanks
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Answer:
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Sister you are indeed in a great trial. We can only suggest that you have patience and bear the injustices of your in-laws and pray that Allah swt grants them the wisdom to change their attitude towards you, if you want to save your marriage. In such circumstances there is hardly anything that one can do. Our humble advice is that you continue doing your duty towards your husband faithfully without complaining at all in the hope that one day he will realize his errors and accept you with the honor and respect you deserve. Take all the abuses of your in-laws without ever retaliating and make no complaints whatsoever. Don't demand anything in return. If they have any human sensitiveness in them they will soon tire of their actions and maybe change. In the meanwhile keep your full trust in Allah swt and make as many supplications as is easy for you. Always be good and speak the truth and stay away from arguments and confrontations.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,
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