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I done nikah to my husband 3 years ago we have one daughter also. But last year in january he left me for 9months.I didnt hear from him or understand where he went he just ran away with a letter saying sorry. After 6months of waiting for my husband i gave up believing he would ever come back so i done allot of regretful things i wish i never done. I done out of hurt and anger. I met somebody else and i had herum relations with them. I wanted to do nikah with him but no imam would allow me to do without the presence of my parents. I said to myself after 6months my husband leaving me Talaaq 3times and said i divorce you. My QUESTION hear is ..was my talaaq valid even though my husband has no understanding i was doing it?And if not then is my nikah with my husband still valid even though he left me for 9months with no contact atall? And the fact i had herum relations with somebody else does that break our nikah? I found out in the end he left me because he had another wife but he came back to me and his daughter after realising it was a huge mistake and divorced her to be with me? Where do we stand as husband and wife after all this? 

 

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Husband leaves wife for 9 months

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Question: I said to myself after 6months my husband leaving me Talaaq 3times and said i divorce you.My QUESTION hear is ..was my talaaq valid even though my husband has no understanding i was doing it?

Allah Subhanah has placed the ties of the marriage in the hands of the husband, and it is the husband who has been given the authority to establish a divorce in the marriage by a mere verbal declaration; not the wife!


 

Thus your mere and unilateral declaration of three (or a hundred, or thousand!) divorces to your husband hold absolutely no legal weight nor any validity whatsoever in the Sight of Shariah Law and in the Sight of Allah Subhanah! Your declarations have absolutely no effect on the status or validity of your marriage in the least.

 

Your Question: .And if not then is my nikah with my husband still valid even though he left me for 9months with no contact atall?

If ones husband leaves his wife without any notice for a prolonged period of time, and the wife has absolutely no knowledge regarding the whereabouts of her husband.the wife is well within her rights in Islam to approach a Shariah Court Judge and appeal to the Judge to give her her freedom. The Shariah Court Judge will study the case, and he is well within his rights to give the wife the freedom she desires from her marriage with the lost husband.

 

Regardless of whether your husband chose to leave you for 9 months or 9 years, if you did not approach the Shariah Court for divorce, rest assured that the mere disappearance of your husband for a prolonged period of time has absolutely no effect on the legality or the validity of your marriage. He remains your legally wedded husband, and you remain his legally wedded wife.

 

Your Question: .And the fact i had herum relations with somebody else does that break our nikah?

As grave and as heinous the sin of forming an illicit sexual relationship out of marriage (for both the husband and the wife) is in the Sight of Shariah Law and in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, rest assured that the unlawful relationship by itself does not effect the legality or the validity of the nikaah in the least.

 

Your Question: .where do we stand as husband and wife after all this? 

If your husband has not declared a divorce to you, and you have not approached a Shariah Court Judge for a khula (divorce initiated by the wife)..regardless of whatever transpired, rest absolutely assured that you remain his legally wedded wife, and he remains your legally wedded husband in the Sight of Shariah Law.

 

Respected sister, what you can and must do is turn back to your Lord in taubah and seek sincere forgiveness for transgressing His Prescribed Boundaries; and if your husband does indeed fear Allah and the Last Day, he too should turn unto Allah Subhanah and seek forgiveness for the injustice he has done to you and your daughter. If you are indeed sincere in seeking repentance, it is expected that you will find your Lord Forgiving and Merciful.

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:

(O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:

When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan

 


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