Girl should seek marriage.
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
I am young girl who has a high sexual desire but has no means to release it.(I am not married.)
I want to live apure
life and not want to fall into or see anything unlawful.
Please help me out of this.
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Girl should seek marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go near zina (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:
33 Say: The things that my Lord hath indeed forbidden are: fahisha (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 151:
151 Say: "Come I will rehearse what Allah hath (really) prohibited you from": join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents: kill not your children on a plea of want; We provide sustenance for you and for them; come not (even) nigh to fahisha (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret; take not life which Allah hath made sacred except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you that ye may learn wisdom.
Your Question: ..Please help me out of this.
Respected sister in Islam, it is only natural that one who is blessed with the element of youth is tested to fulfill their natural physical desire for sex. The one and only thing which has the ability to stop one from falling into sin is the sincere fear of Allah Subhanah and His Tumultuous Day of Accounting!
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated by Abdullah
We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty, and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Respected sister, if you have the ability and the opportunity to marry, then indeed you should ask your parents/guardians to seek to get you married as soon as possible..for marriage would indeed fulfill your natural desire lawfully, and help you in guarding your modesty. If for any reason you are unable to seek marriage at this time, then you could observe fasts, for fasting diminishes ones sexual power.
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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,