Women's way to Jannah is to obey her husband.
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1) I would like to
know if this is true or no that Allah(SAW) mentioned
in the Holy Quran that a women whose husband is angry
with her (due to her disobedience) cannot enter Jannat
2) Does the same thing apply for a man if his wife is not happy with him due to his disobenience because i dont know if this is true or no that Allah(SAW) also mentions in the Holy Quran that a man and a women are equal means the number of times the name of a man is mentioned in the Holy Quran the same number of times a womans name is mentioned so do the same thing applies to both of them.
kindly tell me if there is anything wrong in what i have mentioned and what should a man and a women do in these cases. please guide me and advise me along with the surahs from the Holy Quran where it states all these things i will see it.
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Womens way to Jannah is to obey her husband
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Your question: I would like to
know if this is true or no that Allah (SAW) mentioned in the Holy
Quran that a women whose husband is angry with her (due
to her disobedience) cannot enter Jannat (
The above is not mentioned in
the Glorious Quran, neither in the Sunnah of the
Messenger of Allah (saws). But in some
authentic narrations of the Messenger of Allah (saws), it has indeed been
mentioned how easily an obedient wife will be able to enter
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
(saws) said, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during
Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of
the gates of
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286 Narrated by Umm Salamah
The Prophet (saws)
said: If a woman dies while her husband
was pleased with her, she will enter
It is obviously disliked in Islam that a wife be disobedient and annoy her righteous husband for no valid reason.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 287 Narrated by Mu'adh ibn Jabal
The Prophet (saws) said: Whenever a woman causes annoyance and torture to her husband in this world, his mate from among the houris of Paradise says to her: May Allah ruin thee, do not cause thy husband annoyance; for he is only thy guest, and will soon leave thee to join us in Paradise.
Your question: Does the same thing apply for a man if his wife is not happy with him due to his disobenience because i dont know if this is true or no that Allah(SAW) also mentions in the Holy Quran that a man and a women are equal means the number of times the name of a man is mentioned in the Holy Quran the same number of times a womans name is mentioned so do the same thing applies to both of them.
The criteria of the superiority of something cannot be determined by how many times the object is repeated in the Quran! The terms Shaitaan, or shirk, or disbelief, etc. are mentioned hundreds of times in the Quran; but nothing is worse than these things in the sight of Allah Subhanah!
Contrary to popular belief, Allah has not created man and woman equal; but rather He has made them balanced and gave man a degree above woman in the life of this world. The Creator, Who has Perfect Knowledge of the nature of His creation, has given both man and the woman, responsibilities and duties according to their nature. Each will be judged by the All-Just, All Merciful Lord according to the responsibilities and duties assigned to them in their capacity.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 228 (part):Wives have the same rights as husbands have on them in accordance with the generally known principles. But men are a degree above them, and above all is Allah, the All Mighty, All Wise.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34: Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard.
But on the Day of Judgment, a woman will not be treated unjustly just because she is a woman, nor will a man be treated unfairly because he is a man! Each soul, whether one is male or female, will be rewarded according to their deeds.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 195: And their Lord hath accepted of them and answered them: "Never will I suffer to be lost the work of any of you, be he male or female: ye are members one of another; those who have left their homes or been driven out therefrom, or suffered harm in My cause, or fought, or been slain, verily I will blot out from them their iniquities and admit them into gardens with rivers flowing beneath; a reward from the presence of Allah, and from His presence is the best of rewards."
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 124:If any do deeds of righteousness, be they male or female, and have faith they will enter heaven and not the least injustice will be done to them.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 35: For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast, for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah's praise; for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and a great reward.
Your question: Does the same thing apply for a man if his wife is not happy with him due to his disobenience?
Firstly, Allah Subhanah has not commanded man to be obedient to his wife; his duties and responsibilities are to love her, honor her, cherish her, provide for her, and treat her with love, mercy, and respect. If the man abuses his responsibilities and duties towards his wife, indeed, he will be held severely accountable in the Court of Allah Subhanah.
The Prophet (saws) said in an authentic narration: The best amongst you is the one who is best to his wife; and I (saws) am best to my wife.
He (saws) also said in another authentic narration: The best wealth is the wealth one spends on his wife and children.
Your question: what should a man and a women do in these cases.
In Islam, each family can be considered a small State, and Allah has appointed the man as the leader of the state, because of certain natural qualities and because they provide for the family from their means. But having been given the position of a leader in Islam does not mean that the man becomes an arrogant and oppressive dictator like the leaders of the world! In Islam, when one is made a leader, his duty is to fear Allah, and serve, protect and maintain harmony in his state, by being a just, benevolent, and a loving servant-leader.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21: And of Allahs Sign is that He has created for you wives from your own species, so that you may find peace with them, and (Allah has) created love and mercy between you. Surely in this there are many Signs for those who reflect.
Allah himself says that he has created the relationship of husband and wife, so that we may find peace and tranquility in this relationship. And Allah has put love and mercy between the spouses, in this sacred relationship of marriage. But this love, respect, harmony, peace and tranquility can only be experienced if both the husband and wife fear and obey Allah Subhanah, and give all the rights that are due to their spouses.
It is reported that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said in an authentic narration: The whole is a provision (from Allah), and the best of the provisions is a righteous wife.
Thus, in conclusion, what is required for a peaceful and loving marriage and a good wholesome life, is first and foremost the fear of Allah Subhanah; that One Inevitable Day everyone will have to stand alone in the Court of Allah Subhanah to give a full accounting of all his deeds. Once this God-consciousness and piety is developed in the person, he will always try to obey Allah, and thus do all his deeds in the best manner, giving each the rights that are due to them.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,