"It is in the INHERENT NATURE OF MAN that he is more joyous when he is given news that a son is to be born to him rather than a daughter;
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Dear brother Burhan,
Recently you answered a question with regards to aqiqah. The question is titled as: 4443: Aqiqa & two witnesses women. In one of the paragraphs, you state that:
"It is in the INHERENT NATURE OF MAN that he is more joyous when he is given news that a son is to be born to him rather than a daughter; and that feeling is confirmed even in this day and age in nations like India and China where a large percentage of the abomination of abortions are carried out only because modern technology has allowed man to determine whether the child to be born would be a male or a female."
With regards to the reality and nature of man, only Allah(swt) knows the truth. He has revealed some of these qualities of man in the holy Quran and through our beloved Prophet(saw). So by what authority and evidence do you make the SPECIFIC claim about the nature of man with respect to childbirth? Please provide your evidence from the Quran and
I mean no offense to you by my question.
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Preference of Male boy birth
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Your Statement: I mean no offense to you by my question.
My dear and beloved brother in Islam, it is indeed an error and shortcoming on our part that we did not provide the evidence along with the earlier article; and we sincerely and humbly seek your forgiveness and the forgiveness of our Lord Most Gracious to forgive us our severe shortcomings in the service of His Cause.
If our statements have inadvertently given rise to any confusion or misunderstanding whatsoever, the fault, error and shortcoming is clearly ours; and we do humbly implore you as our brother in faith to please forgive us our unintentional error and are grateful that you have written back to us and given us the opportunity to clarify our position and statement.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, we would like to take the liberty of quoting a portion of the challenging nature of the question posed by the sister and her frustration in understanding the wisdom behind the command of the Messenger of Allah (saws) for sacrificing two sheep for a baby if male and one if a female.
It was only in the search and study of the wisdom of that question posed by our sister that we made those statements in the article, which unfortunately might have given rise to a misunderstanding.
(The question posed by the sister was:) so why is it that more celebrations are made when a boy is born? isn`t it a famous saying that jannat lies under your monther`s feet?..so when this newly born girl is born why is only one goat sacrificed why not two?she will grown up to be a mother and will provide jannat for her children..isn`t this a good thing..a good enough reason to sacrifice 2 goats?
i find these type of saying fustrating and would like to know your opinions as soon as possible..
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2829 Narrated by Umm Kurz
I heard the Prophet (saws) say: Two sheep are to be sacrificed for a boy and one for a girl, but it does you no harm whether they (the sheep) are male or female.
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, to understand the wisdom behind the hadith, one must relate to the times of ignorance before the advent of the Prophet (saws), where it was an accepted custom in the region that the Arabs would bury their new-born alive if it happened to be a girl. It is in the inherent nature of man that he is more joyous when he is given news that a son is to be born to him rather than a daughter; and that feeling is confirmed even in this day and age in nations like India and China where a large percentage of the abomination of abortions are carried out only because modern technology has allowed man to determine whether the child to be born would be a male or a female. Leave alone offer a sacrifice as a sign of being grateful or celebrate the birth of a female child, the ignorant and evil amongst mankind were willing to even kill or abort the infant if it happened to be a girl!
With the advent of Islam, Allah and His Messenger (saws) guided the believers to be grateful for whatever the Lord Wills to provide them; and be joyous and celebrate the birth of the new-born, whether it be a girl or a boy; but because of the inherent nature of man who is happier to receive the news of a boy, Allah and His Messenger (saws) guided the believers to show their appreciation and gratefulness to the Lord by offering a double sacrifice.
One should also understand that one sacrifice for the new-born girl and two for the new-born boy is the minimum one may offer as a sign of his being grateful to the Lord Most Gracious; but if one is so joyous at the birth of ones child, regardless of whether it is a boy or a girl, and wills to offer more than the minimum number he may offer as many sacrifices as he wishes as a sign of his being grateful to his Lord Most Gracious. If one is so happy and joyous at the birth of a baby-girl which the Lord Willed to provide them, there is absolutely no harm if one shows ones gratefulness for the Mercy and Grace of their Lord and celebrates the birth by sacrificing a hundred or a thousand camels or even more, if one so wishes!
Question: So by what authority and evidence do you make the SPECIFIC claim
about the nature of man with respect to childbirth? Please provide your
evidence from the Quran and
Beloved brother in Islam, for the absolute majority of the Commands and Guidance that Allah Subhanah revealed in His Glorious Quran like Tawheed, Shirk, disbelief, hypocrisy, the purpose of the Divine Message, the concept of the Hereafter, etc.; the wisdom and purpose behind those Commands and Guidance were sufficiently explained and revealed by the Lord Most High Himself in His Glorious Quran.
The wisdom behind some Commands and Guidance which were not fully understood by the companions, or which needed further clarifications, etc. were asked to the Messenger of Allah (saws), and he (saws) revealed the Divine Wisdom behind those Commands; and these were recorded in his authentic narrations.
The Commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws) which were easily and completely understood and comprehended in the society of the times, like the usage of distinct alphabets in the beginning of a Surah (Alif-Laam-Meem, Yaa-Seen, etc.), or the allowance of polygamy in Islam, or the concept of slaves in Islam, etc. were so entrenched in the society of the times that the Commands concerning them required no further clarifications or justifications.
The inclination of parents towards having or preferring to have a male child was and is so inherent in the nature of man, that even today in overly populated nations like China and India which discourage or restrict families to one or two children, the vast majority of abortions are carried out if it is determined that the child will be a female! Such is the imbalance created in these nations by that, that the authorities at times have banned and prohibited their citizens from determining the sex of the child before its birth!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale-Imran verses 35-36:
35 Behold! a woman of Imran said: "O my Lord! I do dedicate unto thee what is in my womb for Thy special service so accept this of me for Thou Hears and Knows all things."
36 When she delivered, she said: "O my Lord! Behold! I have
delivered of a female child!"
And Allah knew best what she brought forth, and nowise is the male
like the female. (
In the above quoted verses of the Glorious Quran, the displeasure of the mother of Maryam is apparent at the birth of her female child.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 53 Surah Najm verses 21-22:
21 What? For you the male sex and for Him (Allah) the female?
22 Behold such would be indeed a division most unfair!
The pagan disbelieving Quraysh held the false belief that
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 42 Surah Shura verses 49-50:
49 To Allah belongs the Dominion of the Heavens and the earth. He creates what He Wills. He bestows (children) male or female according to His Will (and Plan).
50 Or He bestows both males and females and He leaves barren whom He Wills: for He is Full of Knowledge and Power.
Islam guided mankind that The Dominion of the Universe belongs to Allah Subhanah Alone and He Creates whatever He Wills and Pleases. He bestows male children to whom He Wills, female to whom He Wills, both male and female to whom He Wills, and leaves barren whom He Wills; thus man should remain grateful for whatever he has been bestowed with from their Lord Most High.
Not only did Islam guide the believers to not discriminate between their children because of their gender, the Messenger of Allah (saws) informed that any believer who would cherish their female children, took good care of them, was generous and benevolent with them, they would earn a huge reward from Allah Subhanah.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 5128 Narrated by
The Prophet (saws) said: If anyone cares for
three daughters, disciplines them, marries them, and does good to them, he will
The Prophet (saws) said: "Whoever is put to trial by daughters and he treats them generously (with benevolence), then these daughters will act as a shield for him from Hell-Fire."
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,