Phsycological problems of a sexually assualted woman
Mu` meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
May god always bless you for your great works. This is about my friend she is married a year back. Being her best friend I know about her and her whole life story. Now she is in trouble. The problem during her child hood days I mean in the age of 7 years her father's brother has sexually harassed her in that age this lasted till 12 years of her age later on when the same person once tried to force for sex and she some how escaped but she was afraid of her mother as she was very strict . But she told her mothers sister regarding that but nothing happened he usually does the same him when he is in the office and when he calls somebody. But her husband adjusts everything because he knows why she behave like that she have told him about everything . She knows well about her husband still she says she don't know why she doubts. she says while cooking she run back to room to see whether her Husband is calling some one talking to a lady. Could you suggest me something that will help her I mean some reply or quran meaning s or any ayyah that will make her cool and feel peace . She times feel angry to god saying that he turned my life in a hell but he gifted me with such a husband. I writing this to you because if like this goes on she will do something to her own life I didnt mean suicide but like spoiling her relation ship with her husband. Her husband does anything for her happiness to. But her childhood had affected her so badly and also mentally.
She still prays to god but still she is not satisfied she is a great god believer but as i understand she got mentally distressed. She always tells me "everything happens for your Own good" .Later on I became her best friend I came to know about her as I was shocked to hear such things from her and could believe
how happy she is to be in front of others. She prays god five times a day reads quran everything. so please advice me what to do and how to make her happy and how to vanish this from her mind.
Hoping for your valuable reply that can bring my friend in to a normal life with her husband I only want to see her happiness and also I want see her living happily with her husband
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Psychological problems of a sexually assaulted woman
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
The incidents that befell your best friend in her childhood, are obviously responsible for her behavior and attitude towards the people closest to her. Especially when the very people who were supposed to be her protectors and well-wishers, turn out to be her abusers. It is only natural that when they grow up, they lose trust in mankind in general, and never learn to trust anyone ever again!
We are obviously not qualified to deal with, or give a remedy to the psychological problems of your friend, which in all probability might be the result of the sexual harassment she received at the hands of her uncle in her childhood. She must urgently seek proper medical help from a qualified psychiatrist, to obtain a cure for her constant fears.
Advise your friend to turn to her Merciful Creator, and seek His help in helping her overcome her condition. Guide her to read the Holy Quran with understanding; which will build and cement her trust with her Merciful Lord and Creator. And advise her to regularly recite the last two Surahs of the Holy Quran, Surah Falaq and Surah Naas; for when a believer recites these Surahs, he seeks the refuge and protection of his/her Merciful Lord against all kinds of evil. And he who has taken the Merciful Lord as his Protector, need not ever fear anyone or anything else.
May Allah Subhanah have mercy on your friend, improve her condition, make her trial easy for her, and keep her always in His Mercy and Protection. May Allah Subhanah bless you and reward you with the best in the life of this world and the Hereafter, for being a faithful, well-wisher of your friend. Good friends are indeed hard to come by in this un-godly material world; and your friend should indeed feel honored and blessed to have such a friend in you.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,