Can women visit grave of her parents
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Can Women visit graves of Parents
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
There is absolutely no harm in Islam if a believing woman
wishes to occasionally visit the grave of her parents or loved ones.
Related by Al-Hakim and Al-Baihaqi.
The purpose of visiting graves is to remember the
Hereafter, which is something that both men and women need. Men are by no means more in need of this
reminder than women.
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “,
"May Allah curse the women who are frequent visitors of the graves."
Related by
Al-Qurtubi explains the implications of the above hadith:
"The curse mentioned in this hadith applies only to those women who visit
graves ‘frequently’. The reason for this
curse lies perhaps in the fact that it involves infringement of the rights of
the husband, and leads to adornment and exhibition of their beauty to
strangers, and shouting, yelling, and other similar things." It may be
said that, "If no such harm is feared from women visiting graves, then
there is no valid reason for preventing them from visiting graves, for indeed
remembrance of death is something that both men and women equally need."
Most of the scholars in Islam hold it permissible for the
women to visit the graves occasionally;
but hold it forbidden for the women to visit the graves frequently as
stated by the Messenger of Allah (saws).
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in
Islam,
Burhan