Dream of marriage
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
I really like a girl,
and she is 2 months younger than me. Every night I think about her. My mother
likes her as a person(she is my cousin). One night I
had a dream that she was a dulhan, and she was
standing next to me, and I was taking her with me. But when my mother saw her,
my mother got angry. That is all I remember of the dream.
Was this a good dream, or a bad dream? Was it a dream by Shaaitan? Why did I have a dream like that? I`m really confused.
I really like this girl, but I`ll only be able to get married once I have graduated (in 6years time). Its a long time to wait. During this time, there is no doubt she will be married. She is a haafiz, and doesn`t know I like her. Should I tell my mother to, in a way, `reserve` her for me? I don`t know how my mother will react when she hears that I like the girl because we have always been so close and in a way I am still her `little boy`. But my mother always tells me to tell her straight away if I ever like/fancy a girl. What should I do?
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Beloved brother in Islam, if you indeed like the girl and intend to marry her, it would best to tell your mother frankly, or if that is not possible get the message conveyed to your mother through a reliable and righteous third party.
Your Question: Was
this a good dream, or a bad dream? Was it a dream by Shaaitan?
Why did I have a dream like that? I`m really
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.144 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "When the Day of Resurrection approaches, the dreams of a believer will hardly fail to come true, and a dream of a believer is one of forty-six parts of prophetism, and whatever belongs to prothetism can never be false." Muhammad bin Sirin said, "But I say this." He said, "It used to be said, 'There are three types of dreams:
- The reflection of one's thoughts and experiences one has during wakefulness,
- what is suggested by Satan to frighten the dreamer,
- or glad tidings from Allah.
So, if someone has a dream which he dislikes, he should not tell it to others, but get up and offer a prayer.'
In light of the above tradition, dreams are not necessarily a harbinger of things to come. In your case it seems most likely that it was a reflection or continuation of your thoughts when you are awake.
Besides, one should not depend on dreams and make his life decisions based on dreams; but rather study the issue in practical and logical terms and use the intelligence and reasoning that Allah Subhanah has bestowed on them to arrive to the best decision.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,