Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Dear Brother ,

Asalamalikum well i just want to ask one question , i have done love marriage , my wife is god fearing & very understanding initally my

parents had godd retlation with with me with all the others members were against my decision , as time went my parents also became

against me , as i am living in middle east they went to such a extent an that they sold my house removed all my money from my

account as they had my blank cheque , now all my family members including my parents have only one motto that i should become

beggar they are trying to trouble me in all possible ways daily they are creating new problem for me , i have also heard that they are

involved in bad praticse , so that they can harm me , my parents are not willing to talk to me .

My one step against them & they pay for life time , i am really fed up with this matter .

what does islam says about like this parents.

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Answer:

Parents against child

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Whatever has happened in the past which aroused the anger of the parents, your duty now is to be extremely patient, and seek sincere forgiveness from your parents, and be extremely respectful, kind, and generous towards them; NO MATTER WHAT THEY DO AND SAY TO YOU!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses 23-24:Your Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him Alone! Treat your parents with great kindness; if either or both of them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them, just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”

If even after your best, honorable and perfect behaviour, and asking constant forgiveness from your parents, they are not willing to forgive you your disobedience, you, as a true believer in Allah and the Last Day, must never ever despair….and continue to honor and respect your parents, and fulfill your each and every duty in all humility and obedience towards them in every way. No matter what they do or say to you, you must never ever hate them, or harm them, or wish ill for them in any way whatsoever, or disrespect or disobey them.

No one loves us more or are better well-wishers than our parents, and we are commanded by our Lord and Creator to respect and be kind to them in the utmost. If they curse you, you pray for them; if they abuse you, you be humble in front of them, if they refuse to see you, you go in all humility and sit outside their door, if they take your wealth and money, send them some more from yourself, if they even slap you, you don’t even raise an eyebrow! No matter what they do and say, you obey Allah and His Messenger (saws) and be kind, humble, tender, and merciful towards them….and seek your reward from the Merciful Lord on the Day of Judgement.

Beloved brother, be patient and steadfast in this trial from your Lord, and Insha Allah, there will come a day when they will forgive you.

This is indeed a big trial for you from your Lord, and you must bear this trial with patience and constantly seek help and guidance from Allah Subhanah, and beseech the Merciful Lord to soften your parents’ hearts towards you and your wife.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan