Remedy for sexual thoughts: Assalam!i am a young boy of 20.Alhamdolillah i don"t see movies or listen to songs and neither i commit any shameful sin in the dark.But i am sorry to say that at times the "shaitan" urges me to do sins regarding my "satar"..though at many a times i succeed to remember Allah`s fear but at times u know it becomes too difficult.My request to u is to plz mention me the islamic ways to curb such impulses any time i am attacked.Plz guide me sincerely.May ALLAH give u big rewards.AMEEN!
Dear and Beloved Brother, especially in this day and age when the Shaytaan has opened the floodgates of ‘fahisha’ and indecency everywhere one goes, it is indeed a challenge for the youth to save and restrain themselves from the evil, and remain committed to the boundaries of Allah and His Messenger (saws). Just as the challenge and test of this age of youth is enormous, the reward for those who control their desires, especially those in the age of the exuberance of youth have been promised a generous and unending reward in the Hereafter. Such is the importance of this age of youth, that not only will each be questioned regarding how they spent their whole life, but on that Tumultous Day each will have to give a separate account on how they spent their days of youth!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 5197 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
The Prophet (saws) said, "On the Day of Resurrection the feet of the son of Adam will not move away till he is questioned about five matters:
- on what he spent his life in doing
- how he made his youth pass away;
- whence he acquired his wealth, on what he spent it,
- and what he did regarding what he knew."
Al-Muwatta Hadith 51.14
Yahya related to me from Malik from Khubayb ibn Abd ar-Rahman al-Ansari from Hafs ibn Asim that Abu Hurayra said, "The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, 'There are seven whom Allah will shade in His Shade on the Day on which there is no shade except His Shade:
- a just imam,
- a youth who grows up worshipping Allah,
- a man whose heart is attached to the mosque when he leaves it until he returns to it,
- two men who love each other in Allah and meet for that and part for that,
- a man who remembers Allah when he is alone and his eyes overflow with tears,
- a man who refuses the approaches of a noble, beautiful woman, saying "I fear Allah,"
- and a man who gives sadaqa and conceals it so that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives.' "
Blessed and indeed fortunate are those who choose to fear Allah in their age of youth, and invest this invaluable time in the service and worship of Allah! The reward that the fortunate ones will receive in the Presence of their Majestic Lord will, without an iota of a doubt Insha Allah, be the regret of every soul who wasted this precious age!
Your Question: My request to u is to plz mention me the islamic ways to curb such impulses any time i am attacked.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verses 200-201:
200 If a suggestion from Shaitaan assail thy (mind), seek refuge with Allah; for He Heareth and Knoweth (all things).
201 Those who fear Allah, when a thought of evil from Shaitaan assaults them, bring Allah to remembrance; when lo! they see (aright)!
As soon as one feels the desire, or the avowed enemy of man, the Shaitaan suggests the person to transgress any of the boundaries of Allah Subhanah; the believers should immediately seek the refuge and protection of the All-Mighty Lord from the accursed Shaitaan by saying: “Aoodobillahe minas Shaitaan ar rajeem” (I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed and dejected Shaytaan). If the person is sincere in seeking refuge and protection, Allah Subhanah will protect him from the assaults of the Shaitaan.
Some other things the believers may do as such a stage is do the ‘wudu’, offer prayers, or recite the 113th and 114th Surahs of the Quran (Surah Falaq and Surah Naas) and seek protection in their Lord from the accursed Shaitaan.
The best remedy for keeping the Shaitaan at bay, is to constantly fear and remember Allah Subhanah, seek and stay in the company of the righteous, pious God-fearing friends, recite the Quran, read good Islamic Books, listen to good Islamic cassettes and lectures, and strive to stay away from being in solitude.
If one is constantly in the face of non-mehram women, or if one regularly watches commercial television and movies, or regularly reads commercial magazines, etc. where ill-clad women are constantly portrayed; there is a greater chance the person will be swayed by the suggestions of Shaitaan towards ‘fahisah’ and indecency. If one strives to abstain from these devices of Shaitaan, and makes efforts to remain close to the Remembrance and Guidance of Allah Subhanah, he will be successful in muting the ploys of the Shaitaan, Insha Allah.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 27:
O ye children of Adam! Let not Shaitaan seduce you in the same manner as he got your parents (Adam and Hawwa) out of the Garden, stripping them of their raiment to expose their shame: for he and his tribe watch you from a position where ye cannot see them: We made the evil ones friends (only) to those without faith.
Alternatively, my beloved brother, if you find the challenge and test of youth too demanding; take the wise advice of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and seek to marry as soon as possible; and if marriage is not possible for any reason whatsoever, then fast, for fasting diminishes ones sexual powers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated by Abdullah
We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty, and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."