Husband still does not wish to stay with wife after getting job
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Assalam o Alaikum Wa Rehmatulahi Wa Barakatuh. I am facing a problem and i want a solution of it according to Quran & Sunnah.I got married 6 months back & my husband is abroad. Before getting married, i told him that i wont stay alone & he will have to come back if he doesnt find a job abroad. He agreed. Now its been 6 months and he is not ready to come back. (during these 6 months 3 months we were together). He went abroad again & made a commitment with me that he will be back after a month after resigning. He found a job in the same country, but now due to less income he is not ready to come back. I am unhappy with his decision because he has a job, a house, food to eat etc but still he wants to stay away from me to have a better job & better jobs & market.What is the islamic ruling on this? He has got Alhamdullillah, a job & i find no reason of him staying away from me. And it is very difficult for me to stay away, i even asked him to leave me, if he cannot come back. Kindly tell me what is better for us according to islam. Jazakallah Khayrun.
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Sister you are within your rights to insist on your husband to stay with you in your hometown or take you with him abroad. Especially if you had made this condition very clear before the marriage. If he does not consent to your request, you will be within your rights to annul the marriage and ask for a divorce and there will be no sin attached to you.
Our humble suggestion is that with wisdom and tact try to convince your husband to accede to your request by reminding him that you had made an agreement. If after all your efforts he yet insists on not changing the situation then take advice from your parents and do whatever is best for you.
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