Can woman divorce a man
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assalamualaikum brother my aunt is married about 10years back to a man who is a phycological patient. he keeps doubting my aunt...to an extent that he doubted on my aunt's own nephew whom she has brought up. he keeps tourturing my aunt regarding same matter that she has affair and she isnt a good woman. .for the same reason twice she has attempted to divorce him...but later she felt pity on him and went back..aunt doesnt have parents..brothers are settled apart and presently he is has gone abroad and working but never sends her her livelyhood...she stays in her sisters houses..and mentally tortures her by saying she is not good woman(uses lot of vulgur languages) to make sure wher she is he keeps calling her nephews brother in laws.. but she always feel pity, sympathy.. recently she has told sisters that she caanot live with that man anymore , she wants to separate..she never liked to divorce him...but she has no other option he never accepts the divorce..he acts as though he loves her lot but meanwhile he says if she separates he wont let her have peacefull life...can we forciblly divorce him? or is there any other way to come out of him?
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If your aunt is unhappy in the marriage and she does not receive any financial upkeep amount from her husband, and he does not respect her, then she is within her rights to demand a divorce, failing which she can initiate a khula and divorce him. If the husband is guilty of not fulfilling his role as the earner and provider then what kind of a husband is he? That is a basic duty and requirement of the man of the house.
Get your aunt to go to the local Kazi and apply for a khula. She should be firm in her decision as otherwise it will end up as a joke. She cannot feel pity etc., after applying for a khula. She should think clearly, take proper advice from her family and then only go for it. There will be no sin attached to her if she applies for a khula if what you have narrated is true.
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