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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

i m quite worried...the problem with me is that i feel jealous alot ..even from my very close persons...i dont have any bad intention..but some times i want to be happy for other success but i cant ..it keep disturbing me that y did not i have this success...plz tell me some dua`s to recite so that i can get rid of this bad habbit ...plz plz reply soon ...i m very much tensed.. 

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Answer:

Jealous habit

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Sahih Muslim Hadith 6759 Narrated by Aisha

Aisha said: ‘One day Allah's Messenger (saws) went out of her (Aisha's apartment) during the night and she felt jealous. Then he (saws) came and he saw me (in what agitated state of mind) I was. He (saws) said: ‘Aisha, what has happened to you? Do you feel jealous?’ Thereupon she said: ‘How can it be (that a woman like me) should not feel jealous in regard to a husband like you?’ Thereupon Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘It was your Shaytaan who had come to you’, and she said: ‘ O Allah's Messenger (saws), is there along with me a Shaytaan?’ He (saws) said: ‘Yes!’ I said: ‘Is the Shaytaan attached to everyone?’ He (saws) said: ‘Yes’. I (Aisha) again said: ‘O Allah's Messenger (saws), is it with you also?’ He (saws) said: ‘Yes, but my Lord has helped me against him as such that I am absolutely safe from his mischief.’

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.90 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the worst of false tales; and do not look for the others' faults and do not spy, and do not be jealous of one another, and do not desert (cut your relation with) one another, and do not hate one another; and O Allah's worshipers! Be brothers (as Allah has ordered you!")

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4885 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Avoid jealousy, for jealousy devours good deeds just as fire devours fire-wood."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 5039 Narrated by Az-Zubayr

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "The disease of the people before you, namely, jealousy and hatred, has crept to you, and it is the unhappy thing. I do not say that it shaves off the hair, but it shaves off the religion."

Beloved sister in Islam, jealousy and envy are the instigations of the Shaytaan, which he whispers into the hearts of man! Allah and His Messenger (saws) have guided the believers to control their ‘nafs’ when the Shaytaan incites them to jealousy towards something which Allah Subhanah has bestowed upon one amongst His creation, from His Infinite and Limitless Bounty.

A believer, who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day, should know that Allah Subhanah Alone is the Creator of everything and He Alone Bestows and Distributes His Bounties on whomever He Wills and Pleases. Jealousy is a state of the heart whereby one implies that he is displeased with the distribution of Allah Subhanah; and it does not behove a true believer to be displeased or dis-satisfied with any aspect of the Majestic Lord’s Will.

Jealousy is an instigation and a whispering of the Shaytaan, whereby he incites the person towards a ‘limited supply’ mentality whereby if one has something, there is not enough resources for another! But Islam guides the believers towards the belief of ‘abundant and limitless supply’ with the Bounteous Lord, Who bestows His Mercy and Grace on whomever He Wills and Pleases.

Jealousy is nothing more than a wish that a bounty or success of another should go away from them, and be given to himself! But when one realizes that every bounty and success is from none other than Allah Subhanah, and that His Treasures are Absolutely Limitless and Unending; one would never despair of the Mercy of the Majestic Lord. It would be more righteous for one to say that Allah Subhanah bless the person who has received the bounty or success from Allah Subhanah, and put his trust in Allah Subhanah that He is more than Able to provide for all amongst His creation.

Thus sister, whenever the Shaytaan incites you towards jealousy, seek the refuge of Allah from the accursed enemy of man, the Shaytaan; and be constant in your recitation of the 113^th and 114^th Surahs of the Quran (Surah Falaq and Surah Naas); it is expected that Allah Subhanah will protect you from the whisperings of the Shaytaan.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 2.490 Narrated by Ibn Masud

I heard the Prophet (saws) saying, "There is no envy except in two:

a person whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it in the right way,

and a person whom Allah has given wisdom (i.e. religious knowledge) and he gives his decisions accordingly, and teaches it to the others."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan