What amount of mehr can a bride demand.
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Is it also true that a woman may ask whatever amount she wishes for? I heard once that a woman has the right to demand even a casket of jewels. It is her right. From what you say here it is the man who proposes and the woman accepts or rejects.
In some families I have also seen that the father of the bride sets down an amount and the bride gives her consent or does not. Please clarify. JazzaakAllah!
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What amount of mehr can a bride demand
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The amount of ‘Mehr’ in Islam is either offered by the groom and accepted by the bride (with consent and agreement of her guardians/parents), or an amount demanded by the bride (with consent and agreement of her guardians/parents) and accepted by the groom. Although in Islamic Law the final decision of how much ‘mehr’ is acceptable is the decision and sole right of the bride alone, this decision is best taken by the bride with the consent of her father or guardian. The bride alone has the sole rights to the ‘mehr’ amount, and she may spend that amount on whoever and whatever she wills and pleases.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 4:
4 And give the women (on marriage) their dower (mehr) as a free gift; but if they of their own good pleasure remit any part of it to you take it and enjoy it with right good cheer.
There is absolutely no limit to the ‘amount’ of ‘Mehr’ a bride can demand, or a husband may wish to offer at the time of their marriage…….it can be as much as a whole treasure, or it can be as little as the declaration of a ‘shahaadah’, or as humble as a paltry pair of sandals!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 20:
20 But if ye decide to take one wife in place of another, even if ye had given the latter a whole treasure for dower (mehr), take not the least bit of it back: would ye take it by slander and a manifest wrong?
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3206 Narrated by Amir ibn Rabi'ah
A woman of the Banu Fazarah was married for a dower (mehr) of two sandals. When Allah's Messenger (saws) asked whether she was satisfied with two sandals regarding her person and her property and she replied that she was, he (saws) gave his approval.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3209 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
AbuTalhah married Umm Sulaym, the Mehr between them being acceptance of Islam. Umm Sulaym had become a Muslim before AbuTalhah, and when he asked her in marriage she said, "I have become a Muslim, so if you become one I shall marry you." He then accepted Islam and that was the Mehr arranged between them.
The bride at the time of marriage is well within her rights to demand as much ‘Mehr’ as she wills and pleases…….and the groom is well within his rights to accept the ‘Mehr’ demand of his bride-to-be and marry her, or reject the demand and thus leave her alone.
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