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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Dear brother in Islam,

Assalamo Aleikum

My father is no more in this world and my very old mother (age about 84 yrs) is staying with my youngest brother and his family. My youngest brother and his wife and his young children repeatedly telling numerous lies upon lies and say very bad words and very bad abuses again and again to sisters and brothers. They give all incorrect information and incorrect representation to mother and my mother starts giving curse to other brothers and sisters.  I specifically and repeatedly asked them (my youngest brother and his wife) to stop  telling lies, to stop  speaking  bad words/abuses,  to stop  developing  incorrect presumption for  others,  to stop backbiting, but they do not listen and keep on spreading nuisance in the family and society. I have repeatedly said to them that may be I am not good man, but I am ready to do whatever you want. Yet, they say, they do not want anything from me but they keep on creating quarrel among brothers and other family members by way of bad words, abuses, back bites and lies upon lies and also keep on poisoning ear of my mother.  I read to them the verses 10 to 14 of Sura Huzarat and read translation and gave several references, yet not listening.

Finally I have deiced to disconnect relation with this youngest brother, his wife and children so that at least I and my wife can keep ourselves away from listening unreligious things. Please advise me as to how far I am right in my decision to disconnect relation with them.

PLEASE DONOT RELAY OR PUBLISH MY NAME ANYWHERE.

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Answer:

Break relations with brother

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25:

As for those who break their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the earth, their’s shall be the curse, and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:

And He leads astray only those who disobey Allah, who break Allah’s covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the Earth. These are indeed the people who are the losers.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin).

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.15 Narrated by Anas bin Malik

Allah 's Messenger (saws) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin."

Regardless of the behavior of one’s blood-relatives, it is absolutely impermissible, forbidden, and an abomination of a sin in the Sight of Allah for one to break or sever ties or relationships of blood which the Lord Himself has created for them!

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.20 Narrated by Abdullah bin Amr

The Prophet (saws) said, "’Al-Wasil’ (the one who does good to his relatives) is not he who recompenses the good done to him by his relatives, but ‘Al-Wasil’ is he who keeps good relations with those relatives who had severed the bond of kinship with him."

Respected brother in Islam, we remind you as we remind ourselves, if you are satisfied that Allah Subhanah, the Lord of the Worlds, should (I seek refuge in Allah from even saying this!) sever relations with you….then go ahead and do as you please! But if the pain and anguish of Allah Subhanah, the Lord of the Worlds, severing relations with you is greater than the pain of restoring of bond of relationship with your kith and kin, then fear Allah, turn to Him in sincere repentance, and strive your absolute utmost to restore your bond of relationship with your kith and kin.

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan